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Wellness Wednesday for June 12, 2024

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

  • Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.

  • Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.

  • Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.

  • Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).

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I keep being advised (by women) to meet women at "festivals" and parks and how cute my dog is and how I must get so many girls thanks to him (I don't).

Perhaps the takeaway here is to not take advice from women seriously, especially about dating and courtship, since dating and courtship are just things that magically happen to them like acts of God.

But yeah, no need to worry about the comfort and feelings of a random woman, for chances are she doesn’t give the slightest of fucks about yours. Maybe you can even amuse yourself by leaning into it, staring them down or walking faster toward them when you sense them reacting cuntily to your presense. Growth mindet!

Who? Whom?, as always. It’s not like they have a principled stance on Bayesian reactions to strangers. If you admit you put up a higher guard when walking past a black man than you do an East Asian man, the vast majority of women who complain about feeling unsafe around men in public will shriek that you’re racist.

Now I’m jokingly concerned that I can’t recall a time scaring a woman by my passing presence in public. Have I been too non-threatening-looking all this time, a la the now deleted “Guy who likes you, but you're not quite attracted to him starterpack: Somewhat cute, non-threatening appearance”?