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Women hate men. Always have, always will. Male animals in the wild chase female animals down and mount them against their will. Or the females are so unreceptive that estrus is required before they’ll let a male anywhere near them. Humans are only slightly more sophisticated, and if it weren’t for legal systems and social structures that incentivize women to become mothers, with the benefits of early retirement and zero economic obligations at the cost of having to bear children, marriage would be nonexistent.
Now, as an increasing number of women would rather be dog moms dating 2-3 men at a time, searching for increasingly high-earning and sexually desirable partners, being an average guy in 2024 is…hard. Or can be, if you aren’t blessed with a pretty face or a huge cock. And God help any man who wants to point out that the status quo is kind of fucked, lest he be accused of being a losing participant in said status quo (or, God forbid, an incel).
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The sociology of sex is interesting and worth discussing, but like everything else we talk about here, the relevant conflicts need to be discussed--not waged.
You’re objectively wrong that I’m waging anything - it matters not one iota to me what women like.
But engaging the people that moderate this exiled and largely deteriorated Reddit thread is beyond pointless, so enjoy feeling like you policed the discussion effectively and to everyone’s benefit, I guess.
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Remember that article on Overcoming Bias a dozen years ago? How women froth at the thought of their husbands enrolling in cryonics? A small, but nonzero chance of the husband not dying is worth a negative amount in their eyes.
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