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I find young men gain status from having somewhat, but not overly disagreeable opinions. The goldilocks zone is on the fringes of the overton window; you'll get shunned for throwing a roman salute, but merely tut-tutted and quietly respected for shrugging off the dotted-i's and crossed-t's of political correctness.
Doubtless some young men will go crying and waving every bloody progressive-cause shirt to simp, but they are making a mistake.
Absolutely. If you're not a "Fiscal Conservative, Social Liberal" or "I think it's men's responsibility to be providers", then how can she try to civilize you? Note the usefulness of underlying attractive traits (financial ambition, provider mindset etc.) whereas whining about something is never a good way to seduce a woman.
Even my ultra-socialist students tolerate "I'm pro-markets" and it doesn't affect my evaluations. If anything, it makes my approval of their coursework (which tends to be relatively good, compared at least to the median deeply apathetic and relativist student) more meaningful to them.
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My misspent youth, alas. Note to readers: reading Judith Butler and bell hooks does not, in fact, make women any more likely to date you. (Someone here will doubtlessly point out this is obvious, but when the women around you all suggest that the solution to dating woes is to Be More Feminist and Read Woman Authors, it's easy for a naive kid to get confused.)
Having a Bell Hook$ book on your shelf might help you get laid. Actually reading it will not. Reading it and then trying to discuss it with your date is a major libido killer.
Because nobody actually reads that stuff. Shattering the polite fiction that she reads and cares about literature is an autist move.
You: "What's your favorite part of the book?"
Her: "Um... I guess I just like um.. um... "
You: "Oh, I thought you said you liked this author".
System: Emily has unmatched you.
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