Gaashk
17hr ago
This is related to Beauty and the Beast, and vampires/werewolves. Women want men who are dangerous to bad men, and kind to them. Lacking that, some will settle for generally dangerous.
Gaashk
17hr ago
He's the only person I've blocked here, he's so consistently vulgar, with so little to be learned from it.
Gaashk
17hr ago
That seems like the wrong way to evaluate that interaction. It would be rude of the man to refuse, but is also rude of the woman to ask. I would think a bit less of her for asking, and perhaps also less of the man for refusing if he does it in an awkward way, but positive if he does it in a funny way.
Gaashk
19hr ago
It would depend on context. If another woman asked me to hold her purse because she thought she was above me, then no it would not be unkind or inconsiderate to refuse. But if there was a good reason, then yes.
Gaashk
19hr ago
I wouldn't thinking of holding someone's purse as a central example of being kind or considerate, no. I can't recall ever doing that for someone, or asking anyone to do it for me, the whole thing about purses is that they're portable.
Gaashk
19hr ago
Sure, being famous and successful will improve a man's status, and then he can get away with things. Even if his status is very polarizing, like Trump, he can still get away with a lot. That's an argument for being rich and successful, not for treating people worse. I assume DiCaprio, being successful and charming, would flirt about it and possibly hire someone to help his girlfriend out.
Gaashk
19hr ago
Sure, and then they will not have a match, and will have very little to do with other, and any attraction will just be theoretical and not become an actual relationship. But I can't think of very many real life people who's relationships are primarily characterized by resources for sex, since they're mostly earning similar amounts before getting together, and the women have to continue working after.
Gaashk
19hr ago
I think this clarifies why I'm confused as well. Bidding a man to do something and he does it is lame. He should turn her down, but it will not lead to attraction, or she wouldn't have done that to begin with. Making fun of a woman for how short/weak she is and then helping her in a flirty way if cool and fun.
Gaashk
19hr ago
Huh. It seems like the feeling of "looking up to" a man and thinking him significantly higher status doesn't necessarily kill attraction (movie stars are attractive), but it does kill the chance of an actual relationship most of the time, he's too high status even to interact with.
Gaashk
1d ago
I tend to disagree with this. Depending, of course on what is meant by "nice." Here's an example: Suppose you need help with something, such as moving a heavy object. So you ask someone you know if they can help you. Maybe it's the person down the hall in your college dorm. Maybe it's the person in the next cubicle at work. Most people would agree that the "nice" thing to do in this situation would be to help the person.
But when it comes to romance, if a man helps a woman in this way (and they are not already in a sexual relationship), it will reduce his chances of being sexually attractive to her.
If a woman asks a man for help and he turns her down, you think she'll be more attracted to him? Why would you think so?
Gaashk
1d ago
Because IEPs are to mitigate genetic disadvantages, which they probably have, since their birth parents came from a worse off group. Even if the genetics are similar (though they probably have some issues there as well), if they gave them up for adoption to strangers their parents must have been unusually dysfunctional, and probably have some degree of fetal alcohol syndrome or some such issues.
Gaashk
1d ago
Makes sense. Partying and hookups in a woman's 20s is signaling that she's wealthy and energetic enough to be able to do that, likes sex a lot, and has decent judgement that she didn't end up traumatized by it.
Women I've known who did that seem to be ending up with mixed results, since they go on to have a series of several year long relationships in their late 20s and early 30s, and it's easy to mess up the timing there. But most women I've known haven't been able to go out all the time anyway. They're working, a bit tired, and don't enjoy short term sexual relationships, which sounds like the more common female experience.
Gaashk
1d ago
I almost entirely buy clothing online, with probably an 80% success rate, but I am quite picky and think about it for several weeks ahead of time.
Lately my preferred method of getting clothing is from Uniqlo collaborations, where they preview their items a month before the sales date, and if I still want something a month later, I generally really do want it and will wear it. Occasionally I have to send something back, which is annoying to do, more than other companies. Also their collaborations, specifically, are a bit better quality than other clothing at that price point.
I do not wear jeans at all, and still wear skirts with leggings in situations where jeans would be appropriate, because they never fit correctly.
My husband buys items in person but does not try them on, and wears literally everything he purchases for several years. This seems to be some combination of not being picky, and having the body type that most clothing is designed for.
Gaashk
1d ago
They would probably end up with a higher proportion of IEPs than average, and possibly unemployment and welfare, though that can be hidden by mormons giving each other jobs at below market skill level.
Gaashk
2d ago
I suppose 10? But none of us has ever been terribly worried about one another's health, other than everyone else about my brother's mental health.
Gaashk
2d ago
According to the quiz, 27% German, 16% autistic, neither prevailing. I do seem to get along with autistic people, and am more autistic than the average basically normal woman.
Gaashk
3d ago
If they're 25, and having babies, they're probably living on a single income, which might well be half of what they'll eventually make, even without raises.
Gaashk
4d ago
It would be nice to have more indoor cheap kid places when the weather is bad. There are bounce and indoor playground places, but they are surprisingly expensive. These are still acceptable library programs, but not all that often.
Gaashk
6d ago
I'd be willing to say they've been androgenized.
The current educational system isn't particularly well suited to women, as is seen by it instilling the idea they aren't ready to have children until they're 30.
Gaashk
6d ago
We have a small SUV that fits three carseats abreast, but had to buy it new, because the used car marked was completely absurd at the time. I haven't checked on it since, as we are still paying for the existing vehicle.
Not particularly. It's neither kind nor unkind. It's not the kind of thing to think about when wondering whether a man is kind.
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