Gaashk
14hr ago
It's great there's a proper website now, with estimated reading lengths and same page ratings.
I was basically agreeing, but for that clip you don't even have to go into aging at all.
I don't know anything about Euphoria either, but it sounds like she thought she would like it, thought it would be female gaze compatible, but then it wasn't. Like, I tried watching Outlander, enjoyed the love interest, enjoyed the costumes, but did not enjoy the rape and torture. So I stopped watching, but if I were a media vlogger, I would have stopped watching and also complained about the rape and torture on the way out.
Edit: looking at the trailer, it does look like the initial pitch to viewers is a lesbian romance between Zendaya and a flat chested blond girl, and them doing drugs together. It does look kind of like it might be a gender reversed version of what they were ineptly doing with Star Wars. "But what if we could reel in more young men with BOOBS though?"
Gaashk
14hr ago
You don't even have to go that far. The vlogger linked in the OP is rather flat chested, and still sometimes wears very deep cut blouses anyway, clearly visible in her thumbnails. She does not enjoy watching more voluptuous women looking sexy. Men also complain about media that flaunts being for someone with opposing preferences when they didn't think it would be going in. She seems to feel that way about Euphoria.
The main issue here is that this idea, at least on the surface is that it seems to be fundamentally in conflict with the the sexual revolution and sex positivity of many previous & current progressive movements.
Yes, Gen Z video essay women and Boomer hippie free sex women disagree about a decent number of things. I'm unfamiliar with that specific Youtuber, the clip you linked to makes it sound like she's mildly disapproving of the female social media influencers who wield their sexuality to perform both trad wife and Only Fans.
Edit: looking at her Youtube thumbnails, she probably has mixed feelings about her own desire to generate more clicks by wearing extremely low cut blouses, but then in the actual video she's hiding behind a large microphone. She wants to be a serious writer and book reviewer who isn't just liked for her looks, but also to get some attention based of of her looks, because it's a savage competitive market out there. This isn't fair, for sure, but performance and storytelling in general aren't, especially among young women.
Gaashk
3d ago
Fair. My father cooked that way for Saint Patrick's Day only, and otherwise made normal stews. I cooked that way a couple of times, and had to throw the meat water into the yard refuse pit, not the normal trash, for decomposition, because it was too wet for the normal trash, and too greasy for the septic system. I wonder if they cook that way in cities, or if it's a country bumpkin thing, for the kind of people with a yard refuse pit? I assume some were poor enough they would eat the broth even though it isn't very good.
I do get the impression that both Irish and Scottish cook fires were literally just fireplaces, not ovens or stoves, for a surprisingly long amount of time. Reading Scottish novels from the late 19th Century, the rural folk are always frying oat cakes over the fire, for instance, rather than ever baking bread.
Gaashk
3d ago
Corned beef and cabbage don't form much of a broth; I might pour a bit over the potatoes for seasoning, but it is indeed meat water. My husband, of Slavic descent, also thought it weird and has insisted that we start cooking even the corned beef for St Patrick's Day with some combination of crock pot and roasting, without the cabbage, which smells weird boiled.
Do you eat stew? That seems like the most archotypical version.
We always boiled corned beef with cabbage and potatoes. Maybe it's an Irish thing?
Edit: Also, isn't that the basis of a lot of crock pot cooking? Making kind of a rudimentary stew by cooking the meat and vegetables in broth for a long time. I am confused about the "bacon," but I think American bacon is different from other places, I tried a center cut bacon, and it was more like ham.
Gaashk
6d ago
M impression is that it isn't necessarily more expensive relative to incomes than in the past (well, it is compared to the immediately pre-Covid past, but the generational past), but more that we've been sold a story of getting richer, and are not richer relative to the price of ground beef.
Gaashk
7d ago
Is this a form that might plausibly be filled out by a social worker on someone's behalf, while they aren't present?
Gaashk
9d ago
Having to provide constant supervision for up to 13 years, depending on the specific local, is in fact extremely limiting, especially if there are a lot of rules about babysitting and so babysitters are difficult to obtain outside of 8 - 5 childcare hours (and difficult within those hours too outside of specific programs. I expect to obtain ~4 hrs of outsourced childcare over the next two months).
Gaashk
10d ago
Not particularly. It's neither kind nor unkind. It's not the kind of thing to think about when wondering whether a man is kind.
Gaashk
10d ago
This is related to Beauty and the Beast, and vampires/werewolves. Women want men who are dangerous to bad men, and kind to them. Lacking that, some will settle for generally dangerous.
Gaashk
10d ago
He's the only person I've blocked here, he's so consistently vulgar, with so little to be learned from it.
Gaashk
10d ago
That seems like the wrong way to evaluate that interaction. It would be rude of the man to refuse, but is also rude of the woman to ask. I would think a bit less of her for asking, and perhaps also less of the man for refusing if he does it in an awkward way, but positive if he does it in a funny way.
Gaashk
10d ago
It would depend on context. If another woman asked me to hold her purse because she thought she was above me, then no it would not be unkind or inconsiderate to refuse. But if there was a good reason, then yes.
Gaashk
10d ago
I wouldn't thinking of holding someone's purse as a central example of being kind or considerate, no. I can't recall ever doing that for someone, or asking anyone to do it for me, the whole thing about purses is that they're portable.
Gaashk
10d ago
Sure, being famous and successful will improve a man's status, and then he can get away with things. Even if his status is very polarizing, like Trump, he can still get away with a lot. That's an argument for being rich and successful, not for treating people worse. I assume DiCaprio, being successful and charming, would flirt about it and possibly hire someone to help his girlfriend out.
Gaashk
10d ago
Sure, and then they will not have a match, and will have very little to do with other, and any attraction will just be theoretical and not become an actual relationship. But I can't think of very many real life people who's relationships are primarily characterized by resources for sex, since they're mostly earning similar amounts before getting together, and the women have to continue working after.
Gaashk
10d ago
I think this clarifies why I'm confused as well. Bidding a man to do something and he does it is lame. He should turn her down, but it will not lead to attraction, or she wouldn't have done that to begin with. Making fun of a woman for how short/weak she is and then helping her in a flirty way if cool and fun.
Gaashk
10d ago
Huh. It seems like the feeling of "looking up to" a man and thinking him significantly higher status doesn't necessarily kill attraction (movie stars are attractive), but it does kill the chance of an actual relationship most of the time, he's too high status even to interact with.
Gaashk
11d ago
I tend to disagree with this. Depending, of course on what is meant by "nice." Here's an example: Suppose you need help with something, such as moving a heavy object. So you ask someone you know if they can help you. Maybe it's the person down the hall in your college dorm. Maybe it's the person in the next cubicle at work. Most people would agree that the "nice" thing to do in this situation would be to help the person.
But when it comes to romance, if a man helps a woman in this way (and they are not already in a sexual relationship), it will reduce his chances of being sexually attractive to her.
If a woman asks a man for help and he turns her down, you think she'll be more attracted to him? Why would you think so?
I thought that one was interesting, but incomplete. I wanted him to go on and think it through in more depth.
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