Gaashk
2hr ago
Maybe it's in the category of fake things people complain about online, then. I can't say I've ever heard about it in real life, but I don't know anyone who used modern dating apps.
Gaashk
2hr ago
Yeah, as a private friends group they don't have to invite her to anything. As a former college student who largely hung out with older adults and didn't have a car until my mid 20s, the description was triggering my scummy detectors. Does giving someone a ride in your car imply sex now or something? Sounds like a terrible subculture in that case, regardless of whether she fit in or not.
I guess. I do agree with others that since it's private you certainly can boot her out. Just realize that it's for your own preferences, not for her. It would be convenient you and negative for her.
Edit: to be clear, I think the stance that 18 year olds are basically children is bad. This is a much worse stance than to just say that you dislike her as a person. because she's annoying, because it's like trying to pretend that there's a moral stance there, and you're on the right side of it when it's not, you're absolutely just kicking her out because you don't like her being there. (I think there's a much stronger case for a policy of No Women, than "no women under 30")
Gaashk
21hr ago
Admittedly, I'm not familiar with the scene, but it seems pretty mean, that she can't even play games with people. Kind of the prototypical young person activity? Hence why Among Us got taken over by eight year old kids?
Gaashk
21hr ago
If she's uncomfortable she can leave. I attended a nude drawing class at 17. Walked out the first time, then finished the class. it was fine, actually, just a bunch of nude 30 year old models.
Edit: to be clear, I was an extremely sheltered Christian homeschool girl 17 year old. It was still fine.
Gaashk
21hr ago
I was in a 20 - 60 book club at around that age. It seemed fine? This is the demographics of community college art classes as well, or even more: 16 - 70, because the 16 year olds go for high school, and the elders for entertainment. Also fine. Just don't have sex with her.
Gaashk
22hr ago
I'm surprised by this as well. I liked that it wasn't an enormous wall of text and contained inserting news. Seems like they could have just used hie to revise the ending? Better than a quarter of top level posts (my own included).
Gaashk
2d ago
I don't see the exact model, it was Yabano, with a pressure gauge and about $80 when I bought it three years ago. This looks pretty similar:https://www.target.com/p/anycold-20-bar-espresso-machine-compact-stainless-steel-maker-with-milk-frother-34oz-removable-tank-for-home-latte-cappuccino/-/A-1007776423#lnk=sametab
I did work at a coffee show for a couple of years, and don't mind spending ten minutes making the coffee myself, though that style of steamer does involve running a little litter of milk in circles for two or three minutes each cup.
Gaashk
2d ago
Indeed, when researching they cite Reddit as a source a concerning amount of time
Gaashk
2d ago
I make lattes each morning on a little machine with an espresso press and steam wand, and it's lovely.
Gaashk
2d ago
This week it was a cymbal ID request in /r/drums. A picture, a short ask. Cut it as lean as I could. Instead of the post being too long to bother reading, it was now short enough that people filled in the missing context with their own assumptions. They started litigating a tangential detail, the cymbal's mount lacked a sleeve, as if it were the point of the post, rather than just answering the identification question in front of them. I clarified the detail wasn't relevant. I don't own the item, can't act on it, was just asking about the model. I got antagonized for that instead and downvoted to all hell.
This is why they will immediately be replaced with AI identification. About as accurate, and much, much more polite.
Gaashk
2d ago
They'll do that if they actually interact with the person. If they're looking out the window of their car, deciding whether to stop for a moment, they'll judge houses, clothing, and skin tone.
Gaashk
2d ago
I was thinking the other day about the ignorance of legislators, but then who really has the time to take two months off of work in late winter to do legislating work, in addition to running for election? I suppose the schedule around here was made for agriculture workers?
Gaashk
2d ago
They provide some goods and services, while consuming more than they provide, on average.
So they're likely to be net negative economically, but God loves them even so.
Gaashk
2d ago
Yes, America really likes "bring my your tired, your poor, your masses yearning to be free", and hates sending crying mothers away. A bunch of Americans are actually sad every time someone is visibly deported. Which isn't sustainable when there are billions of huddled masses and they'd overwhelm the country, but many Americans are in denial about that.
Gaashk
3d ago
It seems like an odd thing to focus on -- I thought that they were also the most likely children to grow into adults who are also a net drain?
Gaashk
3d ago
Having taken a lot of art classes at lower level institutions, then are generally quite good!
They are not intellectual pursuits, not academia, and that is related to why they are good. Some that especially stood out include a wood fire ceramic program, which works with the forestry program to turn diseased trees and bricks into lovely pottery, printmaking programs, with metal plates, acid dyes, and generally nice and interesting old fashioned printing processes, and an art in the dark Northern Renaissance art history course. They're about the same level of rigor as things like biology for nursing, about median for the not very rigorous institutions they belong to. They also cost less than taking a community art course, something like $100 - $1,000 per semester, depending on the specific institution.
Gaashk
4d ago
Oh, interesting. Americans don't have mallet valets, they hire out services, so maybe that's why I haven't heart it.
Gaashk
4d ago
New Mexico has been phasing in welfare for all over the past decade or so, so that perfectly ordinary intact median income families qualify for pregnancy and children's medicaid, for instance. As of last year, all state inspected childcare and pre-K is also state funded. So it's basically normal public school, except with some Head Start appendages attached.
Gaashk
4d ago
I was living on the South Side, and kept going to places like the DMV, or the grocery store, or some cool little fried shrimp place on a bridge, or a nature preserve, and my father in law kept giving me startling strong opinions about the places I had to drive through to get to them.
Gaashk
5d ago
I'm sorry to hear that! There are occasionally people murdering each other in my area (village/exurb), but only if they get involved in some kind of family feud, or possibly drugs. Drugs are bad in general, but the entire Southwest has bad cartel activity and car thieves.
Gaashk
5d ago
My daughter (7) wants to do chores for money. I have been putting it off, because I don't want to commit myself to something that I will later regret. Has anyone else offered paid chores? Any suggestions about it? For reference, I am an extremely bad housekeeper with a toddler at home, so everything just keeps getting messy again immediately, and I have turned down her suggestion that she could clean up a space whenever it seems messy, since that's basicially immediately after tidying.
I would almost rather pay her to do slow concentration tasks, like crafts and reading, since that is what I actually want her to start doing more of. An artist I talked to, for instance, said she paid her daughter to read books like Harry Potter aloud while she painted.
Meh. There's nothing to say to this. Have you stopped beating your wife?
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