TitaniumButterfly
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TitaniumButterfly
3d ago
Rejecting anyone that fails a "basic human decency and tolerance" test that specifically includes tolerating other religions
This would mean excluding all practicing muslims.
I don't know how the West came to assume that 'tolerating other religions' is to be expected, nor even that it should be considered a good thing.
It's something Christians (and Jews) developed to be able to live alongside one another, but it was never meant to be applied to Islam. Let alone something like the Nahua religion. Every time I see one of those 'all religions welcome here' signs I wonder how they'd feel about someone cutting out their heart on the top of a ziggurat.
And re: Islam specifically, despite seeing many debates about it, no one ever seems to ask the peace-professing muslim apologist what the penalty is for apostasy.
TitaniumButterfly
3d ago
I like to imagine that in that future they're culturally German (or whatever) but for contingent reasons all actually speak Japanese.
TitaniumButterfly
3d ago
Yeah I went through that. It's many years later now and to this day I still can't decide whether I regret going down with the ship as it were.
Repeatedly doubling down on what's clearly a losing bet; wagering more and more of my soul each time and seeing it swept off the table, did much more lasting damage than I could appreciate at the time, and it's taken years to heal. On some level it was correct to do. On another level I wonder if I was just stubbornly trying to prove some sort of point -- if it was vanity instead of love. In which case whom can I blame but myself?
I was surprised when my (Orthodox) priest told me to get divorced. They're not prone to that, you know? I objected, "But, as a Christian husband, isn't it my job to die on the cross for my wife?" He said "Yes, and you've done that, and now it's time to do something else."
Still didn't believe him until I went to a monastery and the hieromonk there (even more hardcore than a priest) said the same thing, and also that it wasn't about me, it was about my child, and that my new mission in life was to find a better mom for said child. That got through to me. I was only once I was doing it for someone else that the path became clear.
TitaniumButterfly
3d ago
I could complain about some minor details but she's much closer to perfection than is frankly plausible, yes.
Probably the closest thing to irritating about her is that she's extremely fastidious about food and it's borderline impossible for us to eat out, but that has a lot of upsides too, and I like knowing my kids are coming out of such a healthy woman. Anyway when not pregnant she'll make exceptions for very high-end dining. So in practice we're paying $1,000+ to go out to dinner, or don't go at all. I don't really mind.
TitaniumButterfly
3d ago
I think you must be one of those visiting Europeans because, as a US native, a five hour drive is entirely unremarkable. I do more than that twice per week though with stops at job sites.
When I think of a 'push' I'm thinking of the SF Bay Area to Seattle in one go, or at least Bay Area to LA or San Diego. I've also driven across this great land of ours, probably 12+ hours of driving per day, though took a winding route so as to see some of the sights and it still ended up taking five or six days.
Silence >>>>> Podcasts > Musics
Audiobooks are the only things that keep me sane. Currently blowing through Aubrey/Maturin at a most prodigious rate. But after living this way for... fifteen years? I have something like 600 Audible titles and enough material at this point that I could easily go the rest of my life just re-listening to what I already have.
The really is a dearth of semi-healthy food options
I'm a believer in bringing at least a mini ice chest with good things in it.
I don't think chronic speeding gets you to your destination faster. The naive argument of "It's speed / distance!" doesn't hold up for a number of reasons. First, once you're at 80 mph+, your effective miles per gallon plummets because of the energy needs to overcome air resistance at that speed.
This is definitely underappreciated, and it gets much worse when instead of filling up a tank you're charging a tesla.
motor-vehicle deaths are, if I'm reading correctly, the 2nd most common cause of accidental death in the US, behind "poisoning."
Kinda weird. I've known of countless people who died in car accidents and none who died of poisoning. Wonder if it's a regional thing? Maybe a social filter bubble? Anyway I'd expect medical malpractice to be number one by far, though maybe for some reason that doesn't count as 'accidental'.
Drivers are truly insanely dangerous. The overestimation of ability is breathtaking.
And they vote!
Our (first marriage) therapist wanted to do a private session with each of us. To me she said, "So look, I've been doing this 25 years and we're trained to never, ever tell a couple that the problem is entirely with one person and the other is blameless... but, in your case..."
Her recommendation was that I start thinking about how to move on. Difficult with the baby and all but it did work out and I'm very happy now. Much younger, much prettier wife who adores me and gets pissed off when I suggest we take breaks between pregnancies.
TitaniumButterfly
4d ago
Yeah I got that much <3
TitaniumButterfly
4d ago
Not gonna read that without first watching the film, but you've inspired me to. Just as soon as I'm done with Legend of Galactic Heroes and the second half of Robocop.
TitaniumButterfly
4d ago
TFW Catalonia achieves independence as an Islamic state.
What a world.
I have too much experience here, from my first marriage, and can broadly agree. It takes two and if one isn't actually invested no amount of outside help will be enough.
That said I think we're a bit spoiled here in that most people on this board, and anyone we'd be married to, are likely intelligent and verbally-fluent enough to work through things together. Most people aren't, afaict. Actually, there's a whole lot of couples out there who sincerely want to do better together but frankly aren't smart enough, introspective enough, fluent enough to understand what's wrong and work together to improve the situation.
My aunt and uncle come to mind. They seem to care about each other but they argue all the time and, as a seasoned internet arguer, I'm always fascinated to observe how they talk completely past each other at every chance. They even try to meet each other halfway but all the potential high-fives are somehow missed.
Then again she's a licensed marriage and family therapist so... well, that does undermine my central thrust somewhat, but it works back around to what @ThomasdelVasto said, which is to find a good therapist. And yes, I recommend a man. I've known too many people who go to "couple's therapy" and for some reason pick a fat lesbian and within a few sessions there is zero hope of recovering anything of the relationship. Women seem to exhibit a sort of class solidarity that I don't find among men.
If you want an arbiter biased against you, go see a woman. If you want an impartial arbiter, see a man. If you want an arbiter biased in your favor, talk to GPT. (Please don't actually do that.)
TitaniumButterfly
6d ago
Wrong thread? I think you meant the Friday Fun Thread.
TitaniumButterfly
6d ago
Yeah but RDR2 wants to be taken seriously as literature. I wouldn't expect that from GTA6 and if it's what they're doing it's a bad move.
Right but my question is how the judge is going to view the matter.
The beedrill queen's thoracic plates retracted, revealing millions of glistening eggs. She was two months old.
TitaniumButterfly
8d ago
An interesting edge case is that of fictional child porn such as hand-drawn pornography of various disney princesses and other underage cartoon characters.
How old even is the Snorlax pokémon? And do depictions of sex acts with fictional animals count as bestiality?
TitaniumButterfly
8d ago
I mean, personally I think porn of real people should simply be illegal (outside of private production and consumption i.e. it's okay to take naked pictures of your spouse and enjoy them).
But in terms of a compromise within our current legal and social frameworks, yes, I think it makes sense to allow for AI-generated content so long as it's not derived from actual CSAM. Not healthy for the user, but that occurs to me as their problem, and I have no reason to believe it would make them more likely to actually engage in abuse.
And then there's written or drawn erotica which should also -- again I say in compromise with the current framework -- be unconstrained IMO. The idea that it should be illegal to write about or draw... pretty much anything strikes me as ludicrous. Especially given the ambiguity (re: age, etc.) inherent in many such works.
TitaniumButterfly
8d ago
Because it's hard to fuck in a fursuit without getting heatstroke?
So that's why it seems so much more common in Nordic countries!
TitaniumButterfly
8d ago
I'm definitely not comfortable with AI content trained on actual cp. That feels like extending the abuse of the victim into eternity.
TitaniumButterfly
8d ago
Amen.
TitaniumButterfly
9d ago
I don't think this single data point is evidence for much of anything.
However, almost every single vid I've seen of a cop panicking and shooting somebody inappropriately has been a woman. Including stuff like the one where she meant to grab her taser but got flustered and pulled her gun and shot him instead. And that would seem to support your point.
TitaniumButterfly
10d ago
The Catholic scandals took off because they involved positions of trust.
See, I think it's more to do with 1. hypocrisy ("these people claim to be arbiters of morality but look at how they actually behave") and 2. popular anti-Christian sentiment.
People who love to complain about the clerical abuse scandal never seem interested in talking about, e.g., the higher prevalence of such abuse in public schools, despite it being another example of abuse of positions of trust. That's just not what's interesting.
TitaniumButterfly
10d ago
Hijacking a little here but my understanding is that actual right-wing parties are forming in Europe now -- at least right-wing enough to mention the possibility of remigration -- and I'm wondering what's going to happen once that catches on, even as it belatedly occurs to them that, due to the migrant voting bloc, democratic solutions are permanently off the table.
When will that realization happen? And what happens then?
TitaniumButterfly
12d ago
Where did you get any of that from what he said? You've basically imputed all of your own imaginings onto...
This is her whole thing. She hallucinates stuff to get indignant over and then mocks anyone who objects by implying they're too dumb or insecure (or whatever) to see her point.
TitaniumButterfly
12d ago
And "the cops showed up" in parentheses and also that doesn't happen in the video
TitaniumButterfly
12d ago
How I wish Project Wingman were opened up so the community could make maps and missions! It's basically the only game I use VR for.
Perhaps we might crowdfund some kind of retreat for them, or at least encourage the occasional rotating sabbatical.
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