Bartender_Venator
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Bartender_Venator
1d ago
Some people are just normal and healthy, you know. (And some are too smart to care about politics. The smartest woman I've ever met doesn't give a shit about politics except insofar as it affects her family personally, anything else would be a distraction from math).
Bartender_Venator
4d ago
Depends a lot on latitude and season. I've swum in the Atlantic and it's not pleasant but felt like I could sustain it for a long time, and that was a lot colder than I assume the water in Rio de Janeiro is. But yeah much of the Atlantic will kill you very quickly.
Bartender_Venator
5d ago
Hicklib is a state of mind. They're still motivated by a hatred of the podunk chuds they see as surrounding them, and still look up to an ideal of the rainbowed coasts. Many if not most have moved from smaller places in the midwest to Chicago. You even get hicklib transplants in New York and SF, though they usually try to hide it.
Bartender_Venator
5d ago
US colleges generally do not have a category for "brown" - it's White/Black/Asian/Native American and then Hispanic as an 'ethnicity'. If you want special treatment as an Albanian, Turk, Egyptian, etc., you use your application essay to mention being Muslim a lot.
Bartender_Venator
5d ago
Chicago is awful for this sort of hicklib/post-tumblr politics, but on a dating app you can basically treat it as 20%/80% "I'm cripplingly neurotic and vanishingly unlikely even to go on a date" or "I'm absolutely not relationship material, but play the first date right and I'm coming straight back to yours". You can respond to that signal as is appropriate for your goals.
Bartender_Venator
5d ago
If you think that "not paying attention" means "stupid", you have a very blinkered view of human nature - as is common among people who are very into online politics, though, which is now a large and growing percentage of the population.
Bartender_Venator
5d ago
Even crazier, I believe many old-timey sailors considered it bad luck to know how to swim. I suppose because you were acknowledging the possibility of going over.
Bartender_Venator
5d ago
She's Albanian, they generally think of themselves as white and those who don't believe that the Albanian race is uniquely supreme and destined to rule all, starting with Dua Lipa and Xherdan Shaqiri.
Bartender_Venator
6d ago
I mentioned those because they're on your substack as options for managing chronic pain, along with a lot of other good stuff. But nothing on there is a solution for the long-term mechanical damage sustained in a shoulder dislocation. Shoulder instability is a mechanical issue, not a pain issue, which can be greatly improved by these things, but not fixed - and I don't think, based on my experience, that it can be improved enough to make advanced climbing with strenuous overhead holds safe.
I apologize if I seem condescending with the pattern-matching remark, and would prefer this not to escalate into shit-flinging, but I do have to point out that you referred to it as "a muscle you pulled". That's just not the case. There's temporary damage to the rotator cuff and other muscles from the intense stretching involved as the bone is forced out of position, but there's also permanent damage to the labrum and similar soft tissues and, with subsequent dislocations, the bone itself. If he does not get surgery he will have to accept that his shoulder is permanently mechanically weakened - which is a perfectly valid option, and the one I chose - and he'll have to shape his activities around that. It's up to him but in his position I would get an anchor attached.
Bartender_Venator
6d ago
Dude a dislocated shoulder with associated tearing is not chronic pain, it's a mechanical injury to your joint. This guy didn't pull a muscle while yawning, his whole-ass shoulder came out of its socket (already a serious sign of instability to have it pop so easily). Yoga, rehab, etc. will do a ton and I personally chose that over surgery, but a shoulder dislocation tears tissue that you will never naturally get back, meaning that your shoulder capsule is forever less stable. This means that even if you do everything right, future accidents have a significantly greater chance of re-dislocating your shoulder, which means weeks in a sling and months in rehab. It also makes a major difference to the holds you can do climbing. I would strongly advise him to see a shoulder specialist rather than just a general orthopod, and I can see why this may pattern-match to your experience, but no amount of techniques for managing chronic pain will affect the physical state of his labrum.
Bartender_Venator
6d ago
This changes my assessment, but not recommendations, a little - your shoulder joint is clearly jacked up in ways that surgery alone won't fix. To dislocate like that, it can't just be the persistent damage from the traumatic dislocation, but also that your joint and muscles are jacked up around it such that it was ready to pop out under the tension (probably, like all of us here, from computer posture). The surgery will provide a lot of trauma resistance in the shoulder, but it'll also atrophy your muscles and exacerbate imbalances. Definitely go hard on strengthening and releasing the joint, and your body in general, and consider it one of your new good routines going forward once you can.
Bartender_Venator
6d ago
Oh yeah if you're doing activities with a high risk of re-injury that's a different matter. I just lift weights and do yoga. Climbing you're often loading your shoulder in the weakest position possible for the labrum (that damned L-shape), and soccer you never know how you'll fall. But, for people reading, surgery is definitely not medically necessary just because the guidelines almost always say so (because they care about maximizing the outcomes doctors are rightfully sworn to maximize, whereas you also have to decide about things like the recovery time's impact on your life, playing the sports you love, your guess that surgery methods will improve in the future, etc.). My advice is the same in either case: get the best physio you can find, follow his recommendations religiously, and take up a practice afterwards that will specifically work on joint health. Yoga is great, Pilates is better as a workout in many ways but harder to do as regularly, supplement with face pulls every time you're in the gym. In the case of surgery, find a surgeon who's done it a million times, it's a routine surgery. Someone who works with athletes if you can, not someone who only does grandmas.
Bartender_Venator
7d ago
Surgery is very much optional in your case from the sound of it, though orthos will almost always recommend it (I was lucky enough to go to a university hospital that was very bullish on rehab as opposed to surgery in general). I'd make the call for yourself on when you'd like to take the time one-armed - I will probably get it eventually when I have a lot of downtime and don't mind losing gains. I would strongly recommend prehab exercises before surgery as possible, and take your physio very seriously during recovery. Also worth considering that this is in the long run an opportunity to make yoga or some other joint health practice a continuing part of your life, in that respect my dislocations were a huge boon.
Bartender_Venator
8d ago
It seems pretty obvious that men constantly surrounded by extremely fit, attractive women who don't spend all that much time around guys (because they're forced into obsessing over their dance) have difficulty staying faithful. But yes, it's not better than marriage - until she starts getting a little long in the tooth and the new ballerina is looking at you all starry-eyed. The same thing for bartenders and massage therapists, of course, just with a more variable field of play.
Bartender_Venator
9d ago
It would blow your mind if you could even imagine the quantity and quality of pussy straight male ballet dancers get (yeah, all five of them). But men actually aren't just motivated by that - intrasexual esteem is much more psychologically important than getting laid.
Bartender_Venator
14d ago
I like how whenever BAP is mentioned, there's an inevitable conga line of the lowest-quality jooposters claiming that he hasn't contributed anything. BAP's undeniably one of the top-5 most important figures in forming the current Online Right, and it's pretty transparent the extent to which the notable BAP haters on twitter are little dogs trying to nip at the ankles of the big old dog. It's particularly funny when people make comparisons to someone like Fuentes - he may be a darling of the liberal press, but I can't think of a single idea that's attributable to him, or even (despite him being undeniably funny on stream) a meme other than 'the holly'.
Bartender_Venator
14d ago
Roughly, believing that you have a sufficiently perfect view of the real world from your position of power to justify radical top-down action, as opposed to knowing you only have access to those particular forms of information that manage to reach you through the filters of power.
Bartender_Venator
15d ago
I think Twin Peaks is the greatest show ever filmed, but if you don't like "drawn out" The Return is not the show for you...
Bartender_Venator
16d ago
I think to see where he's coming from you've got to remember how unbelievably, staggeringly bad all the rest of our governance has gotten, largely though "democratic oversight" by the old school of experts. What would be really hard, but worth doing, is combining a much-needed replacement of elites with some kind of revival of Tocquevillian civic engagement and oversight, so that the new elites don't fall straight back into the high modernist trap.
Bartender_Venator
20d ago
There's no particularly good reason to translate "ecu" at all. If you read a history book about the period, it will say "ecus", and translators of novels should just follow that convention. Should we translate "sestertius"? "Solidus"? "Ducat"? "Reichsmark"?
Bartender_Venator
20d ago
It has lengthy discussions on the Battle of Waterloo? This is the first thing I've heard that makes me want to read it.
Bartender_Venator
21d ago
Reasonably attractive and not obviously insane women generally have so little experience with casual rejection (the female equivalent tends to be getting roasted and ghosted) that - well, imagine yourself in high school, never so much as asked out a crush before, going up to a girl and having her laugh in your face.
Bartender_Venator
22d ago
That's a great painting. Yes, it's a very Red-coded thing, partially because it's so boomerish - the big exception for the Left being Obama, who was also beloved of his tribe's boomers.
I also doubt that more than a lizardman-constant % of the people reacting are genuinely offended Christians who loved Trump until this outrage. It's just social media being social media.
Bartender_Venator
22d ago
Obviously this is low-effort, boo-outgroup, and a particularly lazy case of "arguing with the forum", so I'll be brief: there's a long tradition of people making hilariously hagiographic pictures of politicians they like. Think Boomer facebook. Trump seems to have no filter on retweeting/retruthing these things - the most recent 'controversy' iirc was a video of him dumping manure on a No Kings protest - so he saw this, liked it, and retruthed it (or someone on his team did, where it gets weird is that someone apparently ran the image through another AI to recreate it, which is what added the odd symmetrical Statue of Liberty silhouette, and I'm sure that Trump isn't mucking around with ChatGPT).
If you are looking for evidence that Donald Trump is a narcissist - I know, it's a shocking and contrarian thesis to suggest, but we can explore even the wildest ideas here - I'd recommend starting with the giant gold tower with his name on the front.
I regret to inform you that Count is, in that respect, just trying to be more English than the English. While there's a lot wrong with rural Scotland, you're also quite lucky to have avoided the English-class-system-hits-diaspora collision directly.
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