yofuckreddit
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yofuckreddit
1d ago
Saying "No" is always acceptable. A block, and then kicking off drama in a (digital) friend group? Honestly bizzare, and not what a normal rejection should look like.
Sounds like home boy really misjudged the chemistry / who this woman was at a minimum.
yofuckreddit
8d ago
I've never built a plan F in high fidelity. I can find a job anywhere - one sufficient enough to live on and stabilize. I really only need a cardboard box as a house if my family abandons me.
After that, I'd pick a career where you're trading loneliness for currency. Working on an Oil Rig (if they hire people over 30 for that?) is a great example.
yofuckreddit
14d ago
I hate using the word "hope" for this, because I honestly just want human society in general to produce a lot of energy as efficiently as possible. But I hope that wind and solar build-outs slow down, if only for aesthetic reasons. I think they take up too much space relative to a nuclear plant's output.
I know intellectually this planet has so much space it shouldn't matter at all, and that we're generally smart about where we put these generation centers. But from an emotional standpoint, I prefer to leave even sparsely populated or classically ugly landscapes as untouched as possible. When I see massive solar or wind farms, I can't help but shrink back a little (admittedly more for the former than the latter).
I'd love it if Solar were something we could realistically just put on top of already industrialized space and be successful, and if offshore wind farms were more viable.
yofuckreddit
14d ago
I'm probably more aligned with you than you think on this. One weakness of capitalism is that it's not going to build "an energy abundance electro-state" when the demand isn't there. Especially when coal or gas is the shortest putt.
This has definitely been true for China up until very recently, and for the US as well. My point is that we've made Nuclear far more expensive than it needs to be, despite our relatively hungry first-world energy demands. In some cases, we've artificially depressed the price of fossil fuel generation and/or reduced the externalities associated with it through technology, which also hurts the case for nuclear.
yofuckreddit
14d ago
Gattsuru has already answered but we've always had a bit of a head start on the technology for high-quality fission plants. Expecting mind-bogglingly corrupt communist regimes to do it well seems counterintuitive.
yofuckreddit
16d ago
I finished Freedom this past week. In short, I think it's one of the best books I've read in a long time.
So few writers can pull off truly distinct characters without dressing them up in a variety of cultures or ethnicities. They had their own beliefs, decision-making process, and appearance to everyone else. In short, they all felt real.
Some of them were actually better than others, which seems like something other novelists are allergic to admitting when writing a book that's about just people. Other books devolve into sloppy morally-ambiguous mess, which was cool when I was 13 and is now totally insufferable.
Franzen apparently wrote it primarily before the culture war amped up, with it being published in 2010. I shudder to think what would have happened if he'd done it any later.
So many little things just stuck out and made me stop to think and savor. The way he writes about 9/11 felt like it captured what both it and Covid meant to me. Midwestern culture that so many people overlook and don't appreciate. The ways that love and lust and beauty influence us.
Any more and I'll spoil it, but I've already recommended it to 3 people and I don't do that as a rule.
yofuckreddit
16d ago
I'm not sure I believe that regulation is the reason why we don't have fission
I'm one degree removed from the industry and I'm sorry, but regulation => cost is the reason why we don't have more fission.
yofuckreddit
16d ago
It's a link to a YouTube review of the Check Out.
It's a full suspension gravel bike. Some people already consider gravel to be a "made up" segment, and manufacturers have been slowly making what were once essentially road bikes with bigger tires ever more heavy, plush and closer to mountain bikes. This is another step in that direction.
It has a ton of proprietary parts and is really fuckin' expensive ($5-8k), so the hipsters who can't shut up about having the same Surly frame since 2004 consider it an insult.
yofuckreddit
18d ago
I was watching a video today on a controversial new bicycle from Trek, and perhaps my favorite product of all time featured heavily. That product is Gorilla Tape.
When I was a kid and was first being taught how to repair things, I went through a long period of fascination with glue: Super, Hot, Epoxy, whatever. That same fascination extended to tape. While some liquids were cool to work with, I was always disappointed once adhesives were combined with fabric. I see this same pattern repeating itself in my son - he tries to build or fix the same way I did and can't help getting frustrated with Scotch, Package, etc.
I got my first roll of Gorilla Tape as an award ("Fix Anything!") at work while a frontline software guy. Rather than keep it on my desk, I decided to just use it. I did so for years, and it was a revelation.
This shit is almost a parody of what tape can be. A child's concept that should exist only in cartoons. Fuck self-driving cars, this is the apex of technology. It's a shield of protection, stays put for years, tears straight across with just your hands, and a single roll lasts forever. You can wrap it around your camping water bottle and repair your tent, a bike tire, a bike rack, or whatever else you need to just keep together. It's superbly sticky, but tolerant of being adjusted. I can't say enough about it.
yofuckreddit
22d ago
yofuckreddit
22d ago
I think I've circled around this point without hitting it so neatly. As games increased in quality, I found my burning need for books to be diminished.
There are still so many types of stories that don't work as a video game, but I think men migratting to them and culture war junk are to blame.
yofuckreddit
29d ago
I'm reading through Jonathan Franzen's Freedom right now and damn, I've been devouring it. I was worried given the critical acclaim that I'd hate it, but it's been extremely enjoyable so far. Reminiscing about my days in the midwest and the people I knew from my time there.
yofuckreddit
29d ago
I am not a git GUI guy, I've always used IDEs and the CLI. I've heard, however, that many high-caliber devs I know have historically paid for Kraken.
Some of the other things you demand here can and should be set up with pre-command hooks (outlawing other repos). Some can be accomplished by writing your own commands or overwriting the stock ones. I've written 3 for myself:
checkpush- single command to create a new branch on the remote and commit to itfullprune- removes local branches that were deleted in the remote after squash mergesrefresh- gets the latest commits from master and merges them into your current branch. If you squash, it's very reliable.
Making committing a single step (no staging) will be very simple this way.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
Yeah seems like we're talking past each other here. I'm not disputing that at all. There's not a good reason to hide these costs from consumers.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
You're misunderstanding. The medical complex knows how much treatment costs, what margins are, all of it.
An insurer - if they had that information - would use it for more leverage when negotiating their payment agreements. They can put together something like it when they're big enough to compare costs across multiple systems, but that's about it.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
I know healthcare is complex, much more so than wrenching, but the idea that we don't know how to price things isn't true. There are codes for all this stuff, there's plenty of data on what a procedure involves (in terms of consumables/times/equipment) that can be used to blend it.
Any healthcare provider already does all of this for P&L reporting, care plans, etc. but they have to hide what they know to negotiate with insurers and the government.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
Amazing how buried this was. I can't help but wonder if Ukraine would have been able to "succeed" in some way by this point if they weren't so relentlessly corrupt.
Will echo the funny PG-level anecdotes as an approach if you're speaking
Another thing I'd suggest is making a dedicated effort to engage with smaller groups and individuals. When someone dies, the unique person they were to all of those different combinations of other people dies with them.
When a buddy of mine died, I talked with his mom about how dedicated a friend he was. Our teenage pothead team reminisced about freezing in the backyard treehouse with the 2-liter coke bottle bongs he'd slapped together for the night. I let another friend vent about how strange it was to have a slightly-inconsiderate-lover-but-still-a-good-guy pass away while those strange and sexual memories were still so intact.
My condolences as well.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
Totally with you here. Of course every grocery checkout clerk has had to scan through huge packages of crab legs and Hi-C through EBT, but the difference isn't that big. Adding a bunch of complexity and power to a federal program is almost always a bad move.
The right one is to restructure SNAP as a whole to just serve fewer people.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
With a 5-hour round trip a net 2x a month getting to see each other is... reasonable. It's just not enough long term. I've recounted before that I've done 2 multi-year cycles of long distance and thereafter swore them off (even for high-quality women who offered to move to be with me).
Regardless of what ends up happening, I hope you find some sort of resolution and get an ideal outcome from it. I'm very aware of how impossible it is for me to understand a 10 year relationship in a few paragraphs of context.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
You've been together a decade but haven't been able to be near each other. I'm surprised and dismayed at some of the other comments suggesting marriage or more effort on your part. She's just not that into you.
You say: one thing that we both agree on is that we should only calculate affordability based on my assets and income. She's doing this not to protect you, but so that she won't feel as guilty breaking up with you when you move to $(CITY). You've been together 10 years, but still don't feel comfortable discussing finances in a meaningful way. She's chained together at least three excuses/goal posts as to why she can't move to you.
How often do you even see each other, given your limitations? Is this just an online chat friendship masquerading as a romantic relationship?
I moved for a girl once, and the evidence was similarly lopsided. It went horribly and cost me many things. I do not think it's worth the risk. I understand your dating prospects may not be plentiful with your PTSD and non-urban location, but I would consider informally downgrading this relationship (I unfortunately don't believe this woman will care enough for you to go through a formal breakup) and beginning to search for a true life partner.
SubstantialFrivolity effectively convinced me that I should try to not learn any more than that, and my brain will probably eventually find a comforting headcanon if left to its own devices.
I support this and I want to double up on his advice not to talk about it. Probably for different reasons - I think his wife was being a bit unfair by turning it around back on him when he expressed his jealousy. But talking about it is a catch-22. It makes you appear weak to your partner, and will increase the chances of something negative happening as a result, as you can see from his anecdote.
In the modern world I'll throw something out there - a woman who's slept with ~<1 person a year since becoming "active" is probably a good deal on the sexual market. To me that shows a significant amount of personal restraint. I would be pretty happy with that if I were still dating to marry.
Best of luck!
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
Recognizing that such a huge percentage of your family, friends, schoolmates, etc. that are part of your culture were all lying to you doesn't feel great. I don't think she had sexual FOMO, but who knows, maybe that was part of it too.
Months-to-years of wondering "What Could Have Been" is way more painful than a typical rejection. Especially if it's someone you're really into.
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