yofuckreddit
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yofuckreddit
2mo ago
Forgive me for being a monday-morning quarterback here.
His ability to hang out with us, to do any activity or attend any venue that is not friendly to small children, is massively constrained by access to childcare.
Can his... wife not watch the kids? There's this insane sickness among parents where it's impossible for one of them to go out and do something without bringing everyone else along. It's not difficult for an experienced parent to handle all their kids while their spouse grabs a couple drinks with friends after dinner, but everyone acts like it's splitting the atom.
His oldest daughter is at an age where she constantly demands and monopolizes attention, such that any gathering which includes her inevitably requires at least one person to be fully attentive to entertaining and indulging her, lest she become a terror.
Every kid and parent is different yadda yadda yadda, but I can't imagine tolerating this. My oldest is perfectly happy to be a chatterbox and be passed around to multiple adults for conversations, but at the end of the day if he needs to chill and listen he will. I suppose I've seen this problem more so with girls but.. jeez.
I don't think it even has to be this hard. If your kids are trained to crash in a pack-n-play at a house party and get to sleep even if a movie is on downstairs, your life gets so much easier. People seem so obsessed with making shit difficult.
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
I understand on a per-capita basis that cyclists are going to slow you down more, but that's not the point I'm making. To inconvenience you, a traveler needs to be:
- Biking (Already exceedingly rare)
- On a road with no infrastructure (Common)
- On a busy road that blocks passing (Uncommon - anyone cycling already gravitates towards less busy roads)
- On a fast enough road to slow you down (Probably average - an urban cyclist is going to be faster than fellow cars)
I can count on one hand the number of times I've been slown down by a cyclist in like, 2 years. The places I drive aren't particularly cycling friendly which is part of it, but I just don't see this as a problem to eliminate in any meaningful way.
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
Holding everyone else back to accommodate the slowest is morally monstrous and more importantly, just wasting a ton of people's time for no good reason.
This may be different elsewhere, but the number of pants-on-head idiotic drivers who waste my time is... at least 1, but more probably 2 orders of magnitude greater than the number of cyclists I encounter on a day-to-day basis.
We tolerate cars that are falling apart, weaving between lanes, stopping abruptly, and just fucking around far under the speed limit whenever they want.
As a driver first and foremost I'm sympathetic to your point that slowing others down is a moral problem. Do you contend that cyclists, as a group, are more responsible for this than drivers?
If so (and I'd love to know where in the world this could be the case), is the moral problem caused by cyclists worthy of the murder and maiming visited upon them by vehicles when they use the roads?
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
I felt identical when I first saw one. I was in a low light pollution area as well, so it was blisteringly clear. I didn't have to look anything up in this case because I just knew what it was, but for a brief moment I thought "UFO" and then a much more calm and elated "Holy shit, we're living in the future".
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
It looks like we need to fight more about whether or not God exists. It's hilarious that, if anything, most "conflict" seems to be in the Friday Fun threads.
yofuckreddit
3mo ago
I typically keep it in a HYSA, which is maybe a quarter point off of a money market? There are 4-5 different providers I can think of paying 5% out right now, and you can do 30 withdrawals a month, so it's a decent way to keep things sufficiently padded but earning interest.
My cash in/outflows range between $8-20k a month depending on when insurance is due, if I'm paying for vacation or holiday gifts, or replacing an HVAC system in a rental.
So it's a bit of a personal SWAG here, but the bottom line is: No 40-year-old man making $100k a year should be asking their employer for a pay advance, which I've seen before.
yofuckreddit
3mo ago
You can require a credit check for employment but states like Cali restrict what types of job you can do it for, and those don't show account sizes - just how much debt you have and income.
You can require that someone's an "Accredited Investor" which is a similar deal, but you generally only do that if they get Class-A shares in a company.
yofuckreddit
3mo ago
Nope - at these salary levels, you should have a checking account with at least $10k, probably $20k. Your retirement should be maxed out, etc.
Financing a new HVAC unit at 9% interest is pathetic when you're making $175k a year.
yofuckreddit
3mo ago
You jest, but the correlation between the incompetent people I've had to fire and their inability to effectively manage their money is stunning.
If I could require proof that someone has $20k in their bank account before hiring them, I would.
yofuckreddit
3mo ago
Lol, I've had an identical argument with another Australian friend, almost word for word.
A minority race's cultural problems aren't our collective national responsibility to pay for.
If we want to solve the problem, we already know how. It's to use programs to patch problems in low-income urban culture. It still would cost billions of dollars, but is preferable to wiping our ass with our core governmental document and punishing 80% of the country.
yofuckreddit
3mo ago
Saturday Night Specials enabled a whole generation of criminals. Even with the limited capabilities a revolver provides, they're still extremely dangerous to civilian victims.
yofuckreddit
3mo ago
Don't get me wrong, I agree we're all cowards that will meekly agree to be crushed.
But the past 30 years have seen massive expansions in gun rights, ownership, and (available) competence. More people can and do conceal carry a firearm than ever before. More people own weapons that make them capable of defensive or offensive work against multiple assailants (I.E. Kyle Rittenhouse). Extremely high-quality training that can put you on-par with an army infantryman in close combat is widely available to the middle class, along with the plates and carriers to engage at a similar level.
yofuckreddit
3mo ago
an explicit goal of increasing crime sounds like cartoon villainy
Bailing out rioters in 2020 to re-victimize communities was a mainstream leftist position. Our current Dem presidential nominee participated in it, despite previously being a prosecutor happy to nail people for weed.
This was done to weaken the contemporary administration and force them into making difficult decisions about using force against citizens. It excited the leftist voting base by simultaneously casting them as "oppressed" when the riots were met with resistance, while also showing them the power of a near-monopoly on lawfare that enabled outrageous violence against their political enemies with impunity.
Yes, it is cartoonishly evil. Much like the death-cult celebrations with free vasectomies and abortions at the convention. How can you not just shake your head at how insane this all is and was? It all sounds ridiculous because it is.
yofuckreddit
3mo ago
A tweet I saw recently suggested that women are hotter today than ever partially because Instagram has made the competition for attractiveness so cutthroat and winner-take all.
The ability of high-quality skincare, makeup, digital filters, and a wide selection of clothes to modify individual women's body shapes into ideal shapes makes it a system that requires a significant investment.
yofuckreddit
3mo ago
III was my first and IV was definitely the apex of the series.
yofuckreddit
3mo ago
murder rate is inversely proportional to pizza quality
Starting to think this would show up as a strong correlation...
yofuckreddit
3mo ago
As Bilbo mentioned, Baltimore is the epitome of faded American glory and white flight.
I spent a whole day at the Baltimore museum of industry and covered perhaps 80% of what they had? https://www.thebmi.org/
Excellent place to visit to remind you of what cities like this were at one point.
yofuckreddit
3mo ago
How long have you been doing game dev? Do you have a time budget to complete it?
I have a friend who's built multiple games, including a roguelike at this point in Unity. Getting the art done and paid for was a challenge, but he keeps honing his craft with small titles like this. You're at a distinct advantage being a great writer, though he's no slouch as a DnD GM.
yofuckreddit
3mo ago
Good writing!
yofuckreddit
3mo ago
If you'll forgive the assumption, the asexual nature of y'all's relationship probably means that your approach and opinion is correct for the two of you.
I think sexual couples have to cut through some more bullshit to get to that point.
yofuckreddit
3mo ago
Worlds of difference between:
You're on a late night walk, after a few drinks, fingers touching. The conversation is fantastic, the heat of the day has been replaced by cool breezes, and you step between puddles of light on the silent street. Your fingers grip theirs more tightly, and the steps stop - they turn, look, and smile questioningly. "Can I kiss you?"
and a train of constant checking about every single individual sex act, no matter how innocuous.
I know a group of 3 people who met at my wedding and literally "continuously consented" their way into falling asleep from exhaustion before fully consummating their threesome. I've heard dozens of horror stories from women and men wondering what they did to fuck it up. Exasperating.
TL;DR: You're not wrong at all, but it can absolutely be taken too far.
yofuckreddit
3mo ago
In the heyday of the feminist wars, there's been a ton of advice about continuous consent. Nothing makes romantic partners clamp up faster than a "Can I kiss here? Can I touch here? Can I do this......" over and over again.
I still have seared into my memory the annoyed "ugh, c'mon, just do it" from every single virginity experience after I did my last confirmation. It was just a dumb movie trope that I couldn't let go of.
Imploring men to be emotionally vulnerable is also extremely counter-productive. There's a tiny minority who take stoicism too far in their long-term relationships, but it's largely a solved problem from millennials onward. There are far too many whiners, as a rule, and the number of relationships you can instantly torpedo with emotional texting is significant.
yofuckreddit
3mo ago
This is exactly my thought. I've been pushing for two additional tiers of production roll-outs for our software: Dark Releases and Smoke Releases. They've paid dividends for (relatively speaking) trivial solutions multiple times over. It's just such an obvious step to take.
Having enough discipline on your unit testing team to make things meaningful (I.E. not just Regex wildcard matching) seems so, so obvious too. But if you used the former approach you'd start seeing you have to fix that root cause many moons ago.
yofuckreddit
3mo ago
People are literally too stupid to attach the downturn to her. Or too reasonable - she didn't have the power to do anything about it anyway.
The only thing that saves the Republicans right now is a big, unjustifiable spat of race riots where she doubles down again while nobody's feeling sympathetic. The problem is that summer is coming to a close, so the time for the media to make a mistake and race-bait us into that outcome is too.
I do recognize my kids are "above average" good. My wife has been bred from a line of rule followers (the 4yo freaking cleans his room sometimes) so maybe I'm being a little unrealistic.
I suspect as they get older, though, I'm going to have to deal with a surge of rebellion and disobedience. We'll see!
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