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yofuckreddit
1mo ago
As you pointed out, 10% of EBT goes to hyper-sugary drinks which are essentially poisons for the people on food stamps.
We're subsidizing shitty food or playing some endless whack-a-mole of trying to paternalistically stop the underclass from eating themselves to death. It seems like they're hellbent on doing it anyway, so I'm not a fan of food stamps.
yofuckreddit
1mo ago
First, I agree that people generally act with too much revulsion. I've spent more time with the mentally disabled than some and it's not that bad.
People have touched on general aversion to illness and the physical components of things like Down's Syndrome.
I'll add a few more things:
- People who are retarded generally have very poor work ethics, which influences hygiene. Without sufficient pressure from caretakers and knowledge, the default will be dirty clothes and a dirty living space.
- Lack of rationality can lead to some negative moral outputs. Retarded people have their own hierarchy where they victimize the dumbest or meekest among themselves. They can be as selfish and mean-spirited as children, which is distasteful to see in an adult.
- Many people rightfully dread carrying along a conversation with someone who has a mental disability. It's a constant push and pull of trying to figure out what they're saying, deciding to agree or disagree with them, and constantly calibrating a totally alien quantity of IQ and EQ. It's exhausting until you know somebody really well, and even then it's still not easy.
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
If you're in the US, breaking out of generations of poverty boils down to:
- Not making truly idiotic financial decisions
- Becoming a great employee
That's it. If you do these two things, you will have multiple leadership opportunities and a comfortable living. Every single job I've had, from the crappy to the great, has eventually led to a manager realizing I deserved to be paid more than my peers and given more power and control of my destiny. A server at a mid-tier restaurant in the US makes an insane amount of money relative to the amount of effort and dedication they put into their job. Oilfield workers are famous for high school graduates making enough money that it takes hookers and high-interest car loans to destroy their future. Literally, just show up on time, try hard, and be friendly with your boss.
If you're struggling with the first, I find this book to be 90% excellent advice for people who have not been educated about money from an early age.
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
One small thing to tack on that normies love to talk about is maximizing credit card/rewards point systems. It's a game you have to play to tread water, and you can get some marginal benefits on top of it if you do it well.
Churning is nowhere near as lucrative as it used to be, but when you're making not a ton of money it's an impactful hobby to start, and then using the correct credit cards for what you spend money on can be multiple thousands a year if you make and spend more.
I've maximized earnings primarily by using my well-off parents' existence to take financial risks other people can't, which have all paid off. A major one was renting a house for ~2.5 years when I moved into another.
I also dabble in class-action suits for fun (the profit is minimal). I'd be comfortable committing minor insurance fraud by falsifying documents and pirating any media that's not available DRM-free.
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
Despite supporting the attack and thinking it's unbelievably cool and hilarious: yes. Supply Chain as a vector of attack has been a thing in software forever, but it frankly makes me more anxious about the US outsourcing what seems like every meaningful element of production (mostly to our primary strategic enemy).
We already let China poison our children with lead every once in a while, and we've become unthinking lemmings about every super-dense electronic device being totally unserviceable. We're tracked constantly with GPS. The establishment already uses our laziness as a weapon through lawfare, but now has a true PoC if they ever choose to take it to the physical realm.
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
IME, the depth and travel allows your fingers to use more force and speed for longer compared to thin keyboards. The amount of typing I do on a regular basis means that the apple keyboard or a laptop keyboard means sore fingers at the end of the day.
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
My wistfulness has much more to do with missing out on the fun of shooting rather than it requiring a huge investment for baseline competence. It's a bit like riding a bike. After a brief period of shaking off the rust it all ends up being pretty peachy. My $.02 is that going through ~2 hours of instruction and then at least trying a dynamic course of fire at a range (I.E. where you move and shoot) would put you in the top 10% of gun owners. Which is sad but true.
By "cannot" I mean they can't invest the time/don't have the interest/don't have the competence/some combination of the above.
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
I'm finally carving out the time to hit up the sporting clays course again tomorrow morning for the first time in quite a while. Shooting, as a hobby, has my worst enjoyment/time allotment ratio. By this, I mean it's unbelievably enjoyable, and I almost never get to. The reasons are many:
- I live in an urban area. This clay course is a 45 minute boring drive. Nearby ranges are all indoor, and the nearest range is run by fudd cunts who constantly play the game of using my relative youth and politeness as a reason to go on a power trip.
- I'm in an ugly valley of competence where I've done enough competitive shooting and training to be horribly bored standing in an indoor range anyway, but not good enough to place meaningfully in competition. I'm typically midrange when I do go to these sorts of events.
- The amount of time investment required to support the hobby that aren't actually shooting is high. The aforementioned driving, waiting for other participants at competitions, preparing gear beforehand, and cleaning my weapons afterward is massive.
- The direct benefits of being good at shooting are minimal and low-probability. I have only a handful of friends who will go shooting with me, all of which top out at being good clay shooters but who cannot do the sort of tactical course-based shooting that is even more fun. I've taken an indefinite hiatus in teaching almost anyone people to shoot post-2020, which I previously loved to do.
In any case I'll be bringing along my Beretta 1301 Comp Pro. I absolutely fucking love this gun, but it's hilariously overkill in terms of capabilities and price compared to my skill. I purchased it thinking I would be able to use it for the aforementioned tactical 3-gun competition circuit that it's never seen but is purpose-built for. The sporting clays course is covered by rich old country boys, some of whom have $20,000 over-unders while I'm toying with a smurf-colored, plastic "tactical" shotgun that'll drop 4 rounds a second.
Speaking of price, the Beretta comes nerfed from the factory because of shitty firearms laws. Once you get it in your hands, you "have to" drop another $200+ on various accessories to get it to its intended configuration and magazine capacity.
I need to figure out where I want to go with the hobby. I've done ultra-long-range classes with some success and have a reasonably capable rifle for playing at the ~800m range. I've done a lot of handgun courses and competition, and regular sporting clays outings. If I had to pick what to really be good at it would be what is hardest to get practice on, which would be midrange carbine work with my AR. I may have to move back to my hometown to get the amount of rounds and practice in that I need.
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
Just replying to say: Good on you for representing the entire convo. That's how you get great advice, which you can see consistently reflected in other replies. Onward!
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
Short answer: Yes, it's human to think about these things.
Longer answer: For what it's worth, I had similar feelings, occasionally, before getting married. Almost 10 years in now and it's good stuff.
My experience with all relationships and partners is you have to choose what's important to you. Nobody rolls nat 20s on all their stats. Do you want a sharp-tongued, aggressively driven woman? Prepare to be exhausted fighting about stupid shit and being emasculated every once in a while. Do you want a demure mother of your children? Prepare to have to be exhausted leading the household all of the time. Do women want a ripped god? Well then he'll be eating like a bird and working out all the time. Do you want material comfort and money? He may not be as attractive as the former.
Consider those pros and cons and what is truly important to you. Bluntly, I am primarily driven by sex and did not optimize enough on this parameter when selecting a partner, and overshot on almost everything else. What is the evergreen desire you want out of your relationship? And for the love of god, shuck away the confines of what "the culture" demands of you. You are under no obligation to get married because you've dated for a while, and you're under no obligation to marry some uber-female who puts you in your place all the time.
Is there a defined end date to the long distance? Have you dated in-person for most of the relationship? How is the sex (Note that this is separate from physical attractiveness)? Have you dated someone previously who gave you the "Jazz" you're looking for?
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
I use this same framework for a lot of my policy reasoning. It works for:
- Guns (Children killed/mass shootings)
- Crime
- Abortions (Late-term elective)
- Government Spending (Fraud/Efficiency of Programs)
- War (American Citizens in danger)
@faceh mentions this is useless because of second-order effects. I disagree strongly. The algebra problem gets slightly more complex, that's all. The rate of children killed by guns needs to be balanced against the value I ascribe (.99) to potentially having better weapons to kill criminals (probability X) or the National Guard (probability Y).
You can't make the equation too complex to where the changing variables are difficult to find in your mind. But using the gun control scenario as an example: Probability X and Y increased as race riots ran rampant across the country and the left began to flex their lawfare power. This, in turn, increased the acceptable amount of dead children I'm willing to accept to keep my semi-autos. This is what people mean by the gun control debate being over.
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
I'm reading Surface Detail, the 8th culture novel. I'm pretty far in and fairly disappointed so far. I'm comparing it to Matter which I just finished. It's apparently poorly thought of, but I'm comparing the vivid imagery of the eternal, subterranean war in the latter with the simplistic, extended exposition for each new element in Surface Detail.
I'm close to finishing the series at this point, hoping that Hydrogen Sonata isn't a poor sendoff.
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
I live in an advanced (1st wave or close to it) and travel frequently to a 2nd wave city. I get to watch things develop and spread in real-time, and I also started brewing and drinking while underage.
I'd say Cjet has it most on the nose. Non-alcoholic beer and lower-carb is now 1st wave. Right behind that is hazy IPAs which I can't fucking stand, and behind that is sours which I'm extremely picky about. I have started thanking breweries and bartenders that still have a West Coast IPA on rotation.
I have to say that Sierra Nevada is still, even as such a huge brewery, still keeping the faith in terms of quality and consistency. Oskar Blues still makes the stuff I like as well, their double IPA is sublime and competes nicely with Good People's snake handler.
I understand the backlash against traditional IPAs and them "Blowing out your palate" but I personally enjoyed only drinking 2-3 beers per night and having an awesome buzz.
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
Thanks for the reminder that, despite making so much progress on my fitness journey, there is still a hell of a way to go. The closest I've come to something like this is an hour-long Orange Theory workout followed by a 30-mile bike ride.
There's something unbelievably satisfying about a whole-day workout like your Athenian race. What did your pace end up looking like?
Edited for clarity. But what I mean is when they graduate from being in your room/bassinet into their own room and crib.
Many parents fail at this step by checking on the baby far too often. A baby crying at night can just be sad and has to tough it out. The statistics say it's 100% the way to go but it's hard. Families I know ship their kids to a sibling or parent for multiple days because mothers "can't take it".
My advice about the checklist is for when you're not acclimating them to sleeping alone.
Congrats! You may have read some parenting-related threads previously that I've interacted in so apologies for repeating myself if so. (You aren't Dave Grohl.... are you?)
- You should take advantage of the first months of the kid's life to remain more free. They're just sleeping in carriers, so bring them with you to go do stuff. The worst period of parenting is when they are no longer content just sleeping/laying around and want to move, but cannot walk.
- Take shifts. Prepare your partner and yourself for each of you being allowed to be selfish. Sleeping in, getting some alone time, picking what's for dinner because it's easy.
- Your kid will change your life as much as you let it. If you don't want TV at night to avoid waking them up, if you cancel seeing friends, if you make your food bland to share, etc. then you'll get it.
- Aggressively eliminating kid-specific systems and objects from your life has been a good tactic that I had to push my wife on. No, we don't need special plates and sippy cups for the X-year-old.
- One thing I was unprepared for is how unbelievably delicate baby skin is. Feels amazing, but it needs to stay extremely clean while rarely being rubbed very hard by cleaning rags. Do your best not to be the reason why they have a painful diaper rash because it's a super shitty feeling. In that vein, always keep them low to the ground where possible.
- If your infant is extremely fussy, there typically really is something wrong. Get to know your kid and trust them by default. You'll get to learn what a real cry at night is vs a "bad dream". Go through the checklist: diaper, hungry, comfort, boredom, and only then give it more time to see if they'll cry it out. (But then, when you move them into a crib in their own room from a bassinet, definitely let them cry it out. Please.).
- Kids like a lot of stuff. Early on, it's just touching things. Seeing things. Later on, it's smelling, tasting. Then it's watching, helping. Then talking. Even children like having a purpose, they like being helpful, and they develop emotions faster than you think. If you start loving quickly and treating them like they're a year older than they actually are, you'll be happily surprised all the time.
Sorry, it's a lot, just the tip of the iceberg. I'm basically a meatsack wrapped around opinions, so there's always more if you ask.
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
You're missing two components.
First, very few people who listened to "Bad Blood" have also done a deep walkthrough of GKMC. Hip-hop collaborations are massively popular, so the political message of the feature doesn't matter.
The size of Swifty fandom is large enough that it is self-sustaining in its own value to women. Being part of the in-group is a huge, huge part of the appeal. Taylor can pay lip service to various leftist causes. Her fandom can take these to extreme positions, but the blame never sticks to her. The groupchat lighting up with celebrations of abortion mean you're annoyed at your friends, not her.
The other half is that her leftist messaging has been overall pretty moderate and lukewarm. Even her killshot last night boiled down to "Do your research and vote, I'm doing this". That's all you need. Millions of women will repost that with
"Yass Queen! End Facism!"
And that's not hyperbole - it's a literal quote from an Instagram story I suffered through this morning.
If anything, she faces frequent horseshoe backlash for not being extreme enough.
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
I can tell you that after spending the money on it I don't think it was much cheaper. She increased prices for the Euro shows, but at least people who had FOMO from the US tour were able to get them at "retail".
The whole point is that many people organized entire European trips around this one event, her cultural power is.... significant.
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
In this case it's not just thousands, it's 10s of thousands or 100s (cumulatively). I went to one of her euro shows, the number of Americans at each one was insane.
It's not that the Swifties are particularly critical thinkers when it comes to politics, but many of them will use this as a moral superiority pump for their existing opinions, and those who were apathetic before may take the opportunity to swap friendship bracelets at voting booths.
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
Thankfully (?) I read this book solely based on its title and cover art. I'm totally outside of whatever community this was/is.
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
Not if you've registered your car. You only get away with this if you get away with paper plates and no insurance for long periods of time.
Even worthless fuckhead cops will spend 60 minutes looking at traffic cameras to try and spot a license plate after you murder a kid.
I finished There Is No Antimemetics Division last night.
Overall... Good. Lovecraftian modern horror with a dash of X-files. Excellent writing with atmosphere for days.
Like any other book of this genre I think it starts off strong and then tapers off towards the end in many ways. 4/5 maybe.
For those who read and enjoyed it I think a similar novel was Annihilation. TINAMD was far better in one key way: it never sacrificed being understandable in the name of pushing the boundaries of art, which annoyed (and enthralled) me about Annihilation.
A good review with similar complaints to those I had is here: https://a.co/d/9cLqhP7
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
Exactly. I kicked off a babysitting co-op in my neighborhood for exactly this reason. I can read a book or watch a movie at a friend's house while they go out on a late-night date. The kids are in bed by 7:30 anyway.
I noticed quite a few people were using pairing up (without any kids even) as an unvoiced excuse to start hanging at home and stop going out or seeing friends
I've seen this too. Thankfully, most of the people who use this tack don't complain about being lonely but... many do. I visited my midwestern friends recently and tried to connect them with one another (identical hobbies, great fits) to no avail. Some people just like being homebodies I guess.
yofuckreddit
2mo ago
choosing to ride a child's toy on a real grown-up road
I can't take this barb very seriously. Using your body and a simple machine to travel self-sufficiently is "childish", but cocooning yourself in a 4,000 pound air-conditioned couch for even the most trivial trip is "adulting"? It doesn't line up, and it's pretty lowbrow discourse.
Too early to tell but I loved Anyone but you as a back to basics from com and suspect Glen Powell is a decent (and attractive) actor.
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