rverghes
10hr ago
I've never been in your position, so take what I say with a grain of salt.
I think you should try to make it work. You're head-over-heels for her, and the way you describe it seems somewhat rare to me. Best case scenario, the LDR works out and you're with her. Worst case, the LDR doesn't work out, and a year from now you've broken up and are looking for someone new. Which is the exact same position you are in now. To me, the potential losses from trying to make it work seem much smaller than the potential gains.
I think you should give her the benefit of the doubt (fool me once, etc.). Assume she saw this was getting serious, but she would have to leave, so she tried to nip things in the bud before it went too far. But now she's reconsidering.
rverghes
1mo ago
Could you provide an example of a sentence where you don't think using 'parent' is right?
rverghes
1mo ago
Under what circumstances could it possibly be acceptable that a medic can arrogate themselves the responsibility to decline to inform an adult of sound mind that they have a serious medical condition?
DNA testing reveals that the person is a child of incest.
rverghes
1mo ago
Maybe I'm missing something, but you can't do 32 so far. So why is 33 or 34 even an option?
rverghes
2mo ago
I think you are letting your preconceptions about modern media get to you. The reading is entirely intended. Making the church seem bigoted is the fakeout. Lilith seducing the congregation with words of freedom leading to horrors is the intended portrayal.
rverghes
2mo ago
Wait what? I would've said you just use whatever you have to hand. Sometimes that's a half court, sometimes full. Why would this have a tribal slant to it?
Maybe a hoop in a driveway vs a full public court? An obscured way of getting at suburbs vs city?
rverghes
2mo ago
The demonic figure in the trailer is not good. This trailer, and the rest of the game, portrays her and her followers as evil and wrong. The perspective the OP gets from the trailer is the perspective the game intends to convey.
That being said, the church, like the trailer, is also quite harsh. In Diablo, pretty much everybody sucks.
rverghes
2mo ago
Currently playing Diablo 4 and this cutscene genuinely stunned me in the sense of how it unintentionally conveys perspective of religious reactionaries so well
I'm not sure how far you've gotten, but it's entirely intentional.
rverghes
2mo ago
Conversely, are there any weaknesses to STV that make first past the post preferable?
Eventually, parties start publishing "slates" which suggest to their voters the full order they should mark candidates in. Then it pretty much boils down to negotiation between parties for positions on each other's slates.
STV proponents assume that individual voters will have individual opinions on the different candidates. I.e. some Conservatives will put the Liberal party second, but others will put the far-right party second, and that proportion will determine the winner. But voting as a bloc is too strong a tactic. Very often an election will end up coming down to which parties can expect great fidelity to their slate.
So you end up with a vast increase in complexity and a great decrease in transparency, just to get the election decided by more backroom negotiation.
rverghes
2mo ago
"Fungible" is misleading. There are 3 boxes, therefore each box has 1/3 of the possible outcomes. If you start with that, everything else falls into place.
rverghes
4mo ago
Write stuff down. Keep personal records of everything. All your meetings, all the tasks you did, etc. Do it immediately after the fact. If you have to learn something, write a document detailing what you learned. If it's a meeting, note who was present, link important documents, and make short notes of the decisions.
This isn't to cover your bases or protect you or anything. It's just to keep everything straight. Don't count on just remembering things. Corporate can move very slowly, and being able to refer to what happened in a meeting a month ago is very useful. As well, it's very helpful to have a paper trail when it comes to things like getting promoted.
rverghes
5mo ago
Even if RCV is actually a good idea for some reason, very few people can model it effectively and people absolutely will feel like their opponents just devised a system to cheat the first time that someone gets the most first-place votes and loses anyway.
In some ways, you could even say that the purpose of all these complicated systems is to ensure that the guy with the most votes loses.
rverghes
5mo ago
What about 3 terms, all with a term in between? That clearly complies, the intention can't be to cap at 10 years overall.
rverghes
5mo ago
I think this is correct on a post level. But reddit-style voting is often used for more than just posts. For example, the score often determines sorting, so high-agreement posts come first and are more likely to be read. Similarly, highly negative posts get hidden from view. Finally, on Reddit, post karma adds up to a total score for the user, which keeps people trying to get a higher score. Not to mention that some subreddits require certain karma levels to post.
It might be interesting to see explicit agree/disagree buttons and then show something like "18 votes, 86% agreement".
rverghes
5mo ago
That's true. Maybe the shift also is from servers-as-pets to servers-as-cattle.
I just think there's a definite shift between the two types of admin, even if it occurs in parts. And because the change is large enough, we use two different words to describe the jobs.
rverghes
5mo ago
Eh, I'd argue that sysadmin is maintaining running systems by hand, and DevOps is Infrastructure-as-Code. There is a qualitative difference when you switch from one to the other.
rverghes
6mo ago
Yes, that's true.
I think that for the withdrawal to hurt Biden, there would need to be some proof of executive micromanaging, like overruling defence plans or imposing artificial restrictions on how the withdrawal was conducted.
Which probably didn't happen, other than maybe imposing a timeline over defence foot-dragging. (Though it might have, and both sides are keeping quiet to avoid burning each other.)
rverghes
6mo ago
On its own, it won't hurt Biden, but it might as one element in a pattern. "Here are three times Biden's incompetence...."
But on its own, it runs into the problem that a lot of people agree with withdrawing from Afghanistan. So even if it docks points for execution, he gains from making the call. "Yes, the withdrawal didn't go perfectly, but he was only one who made the hard and correct decision".
rverghes
6mo ago
I'm going to buck the trend and say you should sell. In my opinion, administrative overhead is greatly under-estimated. Simply not having to think about X is worth a lot.
To me, it feels like you aren't going to care about the house. At best, it's a source of small income. Cut it free, take the capital gains and the mortgage payment and do something else more relevant to you with the money.
rverghes
6mo ago
Bro, just listen to your aunt, and take the arranged marriage.
I nominated this for an AAQC.
rverghes
7mo ago
What are your feelings about weather? In particular, snow?
Personally I enjoy snow, but there is a big difference living somewhere which gets a fair amount and somewhere which doesn't have any.
My theory is that the modern culture war in the US stems from gay marriage. Basically, gay marriage did not win democratically in the US, it was imposed from above. Therefore blue tribe is deeply insecure in their victory. And they have responded by trying to crush any and all dissent.
It would have been healthier if blue tribe had to win gay marriage the old-fashioned way, through the formal constitutional amendment process. Win referendums state-by-state. It would have taken longer, but having your fellow citizens vote with you gives confidence in the result, that it's unlikely to be taken from you.
Perhaps the loss in the California referendum spooked blue tribe, and made them think the amendment path was impossible. Personally I do think Americans would have eventually voted for gay marriage. "The pursuit of happiness" is deeply entrenched in the American soul.
A couple analogous situations. Women's suffrage was rejected by the Supreme Court. So it had to be done via amendment. But doing so made it utterly accepted.
Canada passed gay marriage with two free votes in Parliament. One under a Liberal government and one under the subsequent Conservative government. Both votes passed, and thus gay marriage has iron-clad legitimacy in Canada. This is how the process is supposed to work, what Parliament is for.
rverghes
11mo ago
A side note: I sometimes worry that modern spay/neuter campaigns are, on net, reversing the domestication process for cats. Practically the only individuals that are allowed to reproduce these days are 1) expensive purebreds and 2) feral cats so averse to humans that they escape TNR programs. If you have a snuggly, trainable one, let her make more!
Same thing for dogs, only with added bonus that it's the aggressive breeds which get to breed as their owners don't care enough to spay/neuter.
rverghes
1yr ago
Am I the only one who feels sympathetic to the lawyers?
The media and the tech companies have been hyping GPT like crazy: "It's going to replace all our jobs." "You're foolish if you don't learn how to use GPT." "Google/Microsoft is replacing their search engine with GPT."
So these lawyers give it a try and it appears to work and live up to the hype, but it's really gaslighting them.
Because there's usually a rule about maximum line length, in order to keep lines fitting inside the screen or window. Variable-length tabs play havoc with that rule, and auto-formatters would be constantly flipping lines back and forth as code was touched by different developers. Which introduces a lot of extra noise into commits.
Not to mention that sometimes we use tabs to deliberately format things into columns, not just indent code. Variable-length tabs throw that off.
All in all, the gains from having the code look the exact same for each developer outweighs the individual aesthetic gain of your preferred tab size.
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