lagrangian
1yr ago
I wonder what the corresponding task you should set a man is? Perhaps very similar.
Several hundred hours of grinding leetcode is plausibly more degrading...
lagrangian
1yr ago
I have physically removed the piezo speakers from most appliances in my life. It's often not that hard.
lagrangian
1yr ago
Showing your hand at this point may seem right, but in my view is just an effort at a dopamine hit. Which very likely may not get the desired reaction.
You might be right.
I asked, she said yes, but also something vaguely dismissive about labels in general. It didn't go super poorly, like she said yes, and I don't get the impression I'm going to wake up to a "hey sorry about this but". But I was hoping for it to be a little more... Romantic?
It seems like she is really intensely trying to find a life partner, and I'm vaguely skeptical that I would ever want to put up with someone forever. It's not that I go into a relationship hoping to break up with someone, but five for five, I have gotten bored and done just that. Life partner kind of sounds like a thing I would want, I'm definitely a boring suburban person and fond of routine. But also, the ADHD, it's a thing , so always hard to know if I am right about what I want.
lagrangian
1yr ago
I've been seeing a woman for two months now. Both early 30s. She's very busy with work (which often takes her out of town), but even so, we've had an all-day date each weekend. She's finally in town during the week, so we're getting dinner tonight. I think I'm going to ask her to be my girlfriend. We talked about things a couple dates ago and established that we're not seeing other people. I feel like exclusive and girlfriend aren't even very different, but a little. More expression of intent to grow things. It's not that we discussed and avoided bf/gf labels last time, we just didn't talk about it.
It's been a minute since I've gotten this far into things with someone. (Four years ago, a three month relationship; seven years ago, 7 months; some fucking the ex mixed in there...) And the last couple times I have, I felt like I had more sense that there was a reason things wouldn't work out. This one actually seems plausible, which is scary. It's not entirely clear to me how I feel about her, which is reasonable for two months. But it just makes me feel guilty, like am I just saying things and following steps because it seems like the thing to do (and also, sex)?. I don't think so, I really think there's something here, but feelings are confusing. Who knew.
We've both basically lived alone and had intense jobs forever. It's weird imagining fitting someone into my life, maybe even living with someone eventually. Weirder, I think I like the idea. This just in: even programmers are social mammals.
Also weird is that I'm in good shape and have money now. I've never been terrible on either front, but man, does seem to be helpful. How to split expenses is an awkward thing I haven't figured out yet, and I just don't care that much. She seems quite well off actually, for not being a programmer/doctor/lawyer. Also, hot. And not crazy. Didn't seem to particularly care for my briefly discussing the motte style politics, but also just doesn't seem to care about politics or generally be terminally online, which might be better than agreeing with me in the first place...
lagrangian
1yr ago
I just have a single kind of sock. No need to pair them. Is your way bad? A little weird, but if the rest of your place is classy, seems negligible to me. If the rest is a mess, then it makes you look a shmidge worse, but on it's own, who cares?
lagrangian
1yr ago
In what is my new favorite excuse, ChatGPT told me wrongly, my apologies. Checking Wikipedia (ironically, given how often we were told not to do that at first), per capita peaked in ~2008 (including local jails).
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States_incarceration_rate#Growth_and_Subsequent_Decline
year total per-100k
1940 0,264,834 201
1950 0,264,620 176
1960 0,346,015 193
1970 0,503,586 161
1980 0,503,586 220
1985 0,744,208 311
1990 1,148,702 457
1995 1,585,586 592
2000 1,937,482 683
2002 2,033,022 703
2004 2,135,335 725
2006 2,258,792 752
2008 2,307,504 755
2010 2,270,142 731
2012 2,228,424 707
2014 2,217,947 693
2016 2,157,800 666
2018 2,102,400 642
2020 1,675,400 505
over 9% of males can expect to be imprisoned in their lifetime
Wow, I would not have guessed. See source here, including racial breakdown: https://bjs.ojp.gov/content/pub/pdf/Llgsfp.pdf
But, do note that the above is 1997 report using 1991 data. I believe rates are up since then, though, so I don't mean to disagree with your point.
lagrangian
1yr ago
Instead of 10k * 6.5M people, I think 100k * .65M people would work much better. 6.5M is 2% of the country, which might be rather destabilizing, especially if (likely) concentrated geographically.
Given the cost per capita of citizens in low income brackets, even if they're not involved in crime, you could bump that up greatly while still net spending the same. Back of the envelope, five trillion in US income taxes is 17k/person, or 170k/decade/person. Assuming half of people generate twice their share and half generate none and consume the other half's, you then double the per-person savings: 340k/decade.
Either my math is terrible, or you could give real near half a million bucks per person (100+340)!
lagrangian
1yr ago
Both. I've tried five or ten anti anxiety meds - SSRI, Buspar, lavender, SNRI - and it's the only one that I like. Everything else made me spacy or depressed or sleepy.
I also like that it's easy/fast to titrate on/off. A few days should be enough to know if you like it. It should also be cheap and unlikely to raise flags.
Like everything else ever, may not be great for your appetite or dick.
lagrangian
1yr ago
At some point, you have to directly address the issue with the reviewer or your/their manager. Some engineers waste time nitpicking at CR, don't stand for that shit. On the flip side, some people write shit code and need the mentoring, so the right move depends heavily on to what extent each possibility sounds like your situation. I eventually had to refuse to work with one guy over his wasting time code golfing shit at CR.
lagrangian
1yr ago
What about adding intuniv, a combo anxiety/adhd/blood pressure medication, to dex? I love the combo.
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