TheGodhead
1yr ago
The “Islamic Golden Age” seems quite overrated to me. A lot of it was just preserving the intellectual achievments of older civilizations. Pretty minimal achievments in math or engineering. Maybe some sketchy medical techniques were developed.
TheGodhead
1yr ago
I’d love this, especially if it were written SSC style: plain English with actually insightful analysis that does more than summarize
TheGodhead
1yr ago
As an American guy I would think it’s extremely bizarre. The two women I just surveyed on it agreed.
TheGodhead
1yr ago
Is any women who isn’t pregnant/disabled/very old actually going to be flattered by you offering her your seat? Surely the vast majority would find that really awkward and borderline demeaning?
TheGodhead
1yr ago
Finished The Darkness That Comes Before. Great first entry, especially considering it's mostly setup for the main event of the trilogy. I did correctly predict that
TheGodhead
1yr ago
Any advice from overcoming a particular pattern of procrastination where I put off something -> eventually start it which makes me feel stupid for not starting earlier -> causes me to put it off more after minimal progress?
TheGodhead
1yr ago
Well you’re on the right forum to share your thoughts and avoid facing the consequences of any cultural issues so, just summarize this foolproof solution?
TheGodhead
1yr ago
"Based", "seethe"
TheGodhead
1yr ago
I'm American, yes. Honestly my urologist barely walked me through the alternative options. Right now I'm considering just replacing my circumcision with a frenuloplasty and seeing how that works out. But I'm concerned that scarring in the frenulum might make my issues worse. I suppose I could just have it removed if the scarring is problematic? I'm not sure. Medical sites say the recovery from a frenuloplasty takes 6 weeks but people on forums seem to suggest it can easily be months.
TheGodhead
1yr ago
This is interesting, I was under the impression that steroid creams could not treat frenulum breve. My phimosis itself is actually relatively mild, I can retract with no issue, it just pinches the head when I'm erect and doesn't slide up and down during sex. The frenulum breve is much worse and causes most of my issues. Your case seems worse than mine (unless your frenulum is longer) so if you solved yours with creams and stretching maybe that's a safe route for me. Is there any downside to trying a less invasive approach first? Just thinking out loud here but I guess I could try:
In this order:
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stretching exercises
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stretching exercises with steroid creams (the steroid concentration is quite low and shouldn’t affect my body outside of making the skin stretchier)
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frenuloplasty (where they reshape the frenulum to lengthen it slightly)
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frenulectomy (where they just remove it)
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circumcision as a last resort if that fails after several months
TheGodhead
1yr ago
Thanks for the input. I’ll be under general. Why is it that most men circumcised as adults seem to need lube to masturbate but the ones who had it as infants don’t? Can you explain how the sensation is less unpleasant? And how it changes sex for you?
TheGodhead
1yr ago
Will do. Curious if you have a link to that discussion. A search of the site only turned up culture war content.
I’m sure it makes sex less pleasant for men who have no medical reason to get one but I’m not in that category. I would never have the procedure done to an infant son. No woman I’ve slept with has complained about its appearance or taste, they don’t notice. But they do notice I can rarely last longer than 90 secs before having to stop due to discomfort.
TheGodhead
1yr ago
I’m finally getting circumcised later this month as a 24 year old to treat mild phimosis and severe frenulum breve. Hoping this will give me the ability to have some semblance of a normal sex life. Has anyone had this procedure as a teen/adult?
TheGodhead
1yr ago
Been on a Mastodon kick lately. Pretty consistently great 00s metal band, their 4 records based on the elements are quite diverse. Good blend of sludge, thrash and prog metal. Leviathan, the water record, is an interesting concept album about Moby Dick.
TheGodhead
1yr ago
Too culture-warry for this thread
TheGodhead
1yr ago
default rate on a chicks rain check closer to 100%
Maybe for that date itself but if I suggest rescheduling the vast majority of the time they do show up, is this not your experience or do you just never try to reschedule?
TheGodhead
1yr ago
Yeah I agree correcting them just kills the vibe mostly.
But also she cancelled:
8:43 AM Me: Hey are we still on for tonight?
11:40 AM Her: Hey, I think I’m gonna have to rain check🤦🏽♀️ sorry
11:40 AM Her: In denial ab how much shit I have to do this week lol
I think 95% of the time this means they are simply not interested but our conversation and her company/job title makes me think she is actually busy. (Although Some chance I’m thinking with my dick here because she is exactly my type).
Should I text back at like 9PM to reschedule and then add something cheeky like “you owe me the entire Stairway to Heaven solo now btw”?
TheGodhead
1yr ago
You consider that anoydyne? I would certainly never try that unless the "date" is just a booty call. Think you've gotta be pretty masculine for that to work.
TheGodhead
1yr ago
The beach is practically in her backyard. 15 min drive for me but in a perfectly straight line.
beach sand is gritty and in no way lends itself to amorous behavior
Mandatory link: https://youtube.com/watch?v=2tLf1JO5bvE
TheGodhead
1yr ago
The dating app convo was:
Her: (tells story about kissing a puffer fish)
Me: If you kiss a frog you get Prince Charming, turns out I'm what you get if you kiss a pufferfish ;)
Her: Oooh so does that make you the frog or the prince? Or do I just have to wait and find out?
(this makes no sense. I'm clearly the pufferfish who turned into a human. @George_E_Hale this might be where the bad communication starts)
Me: You can find out over a drink this weekend
Me: Promise I won't leave your lips sore ;)
Her: Haha I'll hold you to that
Her: A bit tied up this weekend, how about sometime during the week?
Me: That can work, can you bring your guitar?
(we exchange numbers, plan logistics)
@JhanicManifold might appreciate/have some insights about this
TheGodhead
1yr ago
Wow you are much braver than me, I’ve never said anything like this unless a girl specifically alluded to us having sex. But kissing was heavily implied on the dating app convo.
TheGodhead
1yr ago
I’ve tried the “make up stories about strangers” game but did not consider this more risque version, great suggestion
TheGodhead
1yr ago
Any filler questions that have worked well for you in a conversation lull? Some I’ve used to good effect are:
-what’s your most controversial opinion?
-what’s your worst non-traumatic date experience?
Male bisexuality is heavily stigmatized among women. Even many women who call themselves allies and post about their support for LGBT rights would find it a turnoff to learn a man sleeps with other men. Female bisexuality on the other hand, is so common (at least among my demographic of Zoomer yuppies) that it wouldn't signal much of a loosening of priors at this point. So it's mostly gays who have their own communities now.
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