Mottizen
1yr ago
Nope. Actually having jobs for the low-skilled immigrants seems uncorrelated with the desire to bring them in.
Mottizen
1yr ago
Does your theory predict collapse in immigration once AI-powered automation makes this (already net budget negative over lifetime, in many cases) addition clearly counterproductive?
Shifts in technology has already made huge reams of low-skilled immigration almost completely unproductive and a net drain. Western countries no longer have unskilled labor roles to stuff Refugees into, which exacerbates issues with assimilation and engaging with the new culture. I've got a lot of friends who are 1st/2nd-generation Australian-born Asian-descent, and the jobs their parents did upon arrival largely either do not exist any more in Australian Metros or are gated behind Bachelors degrees & English proficiency.
Especially now the classic Unskilled jobs have gone from requiring literal manual labor and little else, to increasingly being low-skilled service jobs which require a bunch of language skills and cultural awareness that make them difficult for fresh immigrants.
Mottizen
1yr ago
I've worked in Sports betting marketing, and it's very much a similar thing. Women, largely, do not punt on sports. That is essentially an unalterable physical law of the universe, and yet I've seen a series of hare-brained schemes to 'double the market'
Mottizen
1yr ago
All porn can be used as cuckold porn if the viewer imagines themselves to have a particular relationship to the performers but that doesn't mean all porn inherently is cuckold porn. You could make the same argument about basically all forms of entertainment, that watching/listening/reading about other people achieving great things must lead the audience to either delusionally imagine themselves in such a situation or spiral into inferiority and take masochistic pleasure in that inferiority.
Honestly wonder if the recent surge in cuckold porn has something to do with how it injects a ton of taboo/shock value to a scene, without requiring a ton more budget or extremism to actually film. I know a guy who's a mid-grade porn producer, and he's told me that the whole 'stepcest' trend is also an example of this. Since you can turn a vanilla scene into a stepcest scene with literally 10 words added to the script and not having to pay the talent for doing anything especially physically arduous.
Mottizen
1yr ago
Fair enough. I feel like BJJ tends to trend incredibly that way, but I suppose the violence aspects make it a bit different.
Mottizen
1yr ago
Older guys have no reason to stop doing this, either, since younger women will keep expressing interest and the plight of younger males doesn't really factor into their decision.
Also frankly the older guys had to graduate through that younger period in order to become datable, so can't blame them for trying to reap something after getting through their twenties
Mottizen
1yr ago
I'm in what'd probably be considered the most Left-Leaning major Australian city, but even chatting to the guys it's pretty staggering how difficult it seemed to be to get a date. It was a Young Monarchists (I owed a close friend a favor, no particular personal royal inclinations) event so kind of a okay milquetoast career builder for conservative political aspirants.
My suspicion is that young conservative women are acutely aware of the ratios involved + a lot more willing & able to date up in terms of age and success, which produces a hollowing effect for young conservatives where the ratio's already 90:10 and that 10 are largely monopolized by middle-aged conservatives.
Mottizen
1yr ago
Having been slowly co-opted into climbing over the last few months by some friends, and having spent a decade+ doing Brazilian Jiujitsu (which is similar, though not as gender-balanced but that has been changing) I do get where you're coming from.
At risk of being blunt, what's the lesbian rate of serious climbing women?
Mottizen
1yr ago
The cruises aren't so much the issue, though. It's more the advent of modern healthcare means that an essentially limitless amount of cash can be consumed to extend a life at 0.01 QOL an extra 3 years, something that didn't exist in prior eras to anywhere near the extent.
Mottizen
1yr ago
its very obvious that much fewer children are born by chance today than in the past
I'd argue that's got a lot more to do with birth control than just pure impregnatory anatomy.
I've noticed/remarked on a bunch of my friends who are in their late 20's/early-30s that now gearing up to have children is actually a conscious choice, a lot of people don't feel confident in actually swapping gears and trying for a baby. Compared to ye olden days where there was a far higher rate of passive conception, which IMO stopped a lot of the multi-year go-nowhere situationships that you see these days.
Mottizen
1yr ago
Very slim personal anecdote but I recently got pulled into a major event for a Young Conservative group over here in Australia. Black tie affair, lots of young people etc.
I found it pretty shocking to notice that of say 50ish young (Under 25) male attendees they only had about 2 female partners between them, and it's not like this was a Breitbart gathering. Reasonably attractive, suit-wearing, university & private school-educated young men of decent breeding and yet being a conservative makes you so staggeringly unable to compete in domestic dating circles these days. The very tiny smattering of girls who were there as members seemed to be dating 10+ years older and for either career progression or tapping developed finances.
I've seen the impact myself of having a Hinge profile set Conservative v Liberal (legitimately 99% decline in matches by indicating rightward leanings), though I've been off the market for a few months now due to finding a foreign-born girl who's a sane, reasonably-conservative slender woman.
Mottizen
1yr ago
Also frankly a lot of attractive 30+ men aren't going to be dating women their own age as a preference, which further muddies the water.
Mottizen
1yr ago
Exactly. Unless it's an immediate mortal peril, it's generally best to be physical conflict avoidant in modern society due to the consequences of civilization being potentially levied on you.
Mottizen
1yr ago
reminds me of those headlines from 2013-2014 about Tesla accidents, or in 2010-2012 about problems with Uber accidents or deregulation. Any large company that is the hot, trendy thing will get considerable media scrutiny, especially when it errors.
Have either of those companies really improved on the errors in question, though? Like Tesla Autopilot is better than it was but it's hardly like it's made gigantic leaps and Uber is still a weird legal arbitrage more than a reinvention of travel.
Mottizen
1yr ago
I've been catfished and that's been an immediate ending to an in-person first date, but also I feel like sometimes it's just vibe/energy mismatch even if the texting is good and nothing's been misleading perse.
Mottizen
1yr ago
Honestly in my experience of dating amidst the Upper Middle Class clique, at a certain point it also becomes what you do to make money instead of exactly how it's made.
I'm fortunate enough to be very well compensated, but it's in a field that some would consider unethical/unstable and I've had a few romantic entanglements peter out after 3-4 dates since I wasn't seen as being worthy of meshing with a lady Surgeon or whatever, despite being in a similar earning caliber.
Mottizen
1yr ago
None of the doomish Covid predictions came true either because people voluntarily stayed home when the risk was highest.
None of the Doomish COVID predictions were at all possible or plausible even if everybody dropped whatever they were doing and decided to run an orgy every night from 2020-2022
Mottizen
1yr ago
Very aware of my privilege in this regard, my heart bleeds for friends who don't have the same combination of attributes and I feel kind of bad for not developing my romantic skillset earlier
Mottizen
1yr ago
Yes but said married couples are more likely to have completed their courtship in earlier eras + I've got a lot more marital lifelines than I do career ones.
Mottizen
1yr ago
If you're in a niche field with limited employers, it feels like you're more likely to be nuked from orbit professionally if you make an unwise advance, no? Not that I don't think your wisdom holds, but generally holding back from workplace dating is more about avoiding the consequences than the specific benefits.
Mottizen
1yr ago
I would strongly suggest that you don't pay for your date's food and drinks on the first few dates. It increases the costs of a bad date and can lead to bitterness and unreasonable expectations.
I'd suggest just paying for the food & drinks, but making sure to only escalate the date locations if/when there's a click. Atleast make the offer so the girl can choose to go dutch or whatever if they'd like. I've heard plenty from my female friends about how they find it a strong red flag if a guy doesn't pay on a first date (despite otherwise being independent women of strength), and like generally in this era of online dating you shouldn't be making any crazy plans for a first date due to the chances of immediate clunk when meeting face-to-face being pretty damned high even eliminating catfishes etc.
Mottizen
1yr ago
Over the course of the last 13-1 months (Recently found myself in a committed relationship), I essentially committed to grinding on dating apps & making myself more attractive.
I went on about 80 first dates during that period, and I'd say about twice that amount in total dates. I lost about 20KG over the period (and it was definitely a seachange from doing that), revitalized my style and took on a ton of 'practical experience'.
Honestly my biggest piece of advice for a guy trying to date in the modern sphere aren't super complicated. Firstly, Lose weight/Hit the gym, it'll massively expand your pool of potential matches. I'll admit I was an outsized beneficiary of doing this, as my baseline characteristics (6'4, White, blonde, muscular, ex-athlete, medium-autistic, symmetrical, 'good job') were all things I was somewhat wasting by being below the minimum level for consideration via obesity. It's way easier to operate in the space when matches & leads aren't scarce, especially as it means you can afford to experiment, build your skillset, and girls frankly like the aura that a guy isn't super desperate about them in particular to start off with.
The actual playing of games is a weird space. I met my partner on a dating app, but she's also in a very quantitative space (and you can draw whatever conclusions you want from that) and we prettymuch immediately clicked together into a space of communication and mutual desire. But I also spent months of my life learning and embodying a complicated normy socio-sexual world of response times, Instagram stories, flexing and jealousy bait.
Increasingly I feel like the whole space has just gotten way out ahead of people, especially as the social media/texting games get so convoluted and byzantine upon themselves and the nature of dating somebody you've met over an app, in which you've got very low potential of just kinda bumping into eachother and rekindling something by happenstance, has combined disastrously with Feminine sexuality being rather 'Ick-driven'. Then again chatting to female friends and having them downright weeping about how some guy who they've left on 'K', heart react and then read in 3 separate texting attempts has stopped talking to them also blows my mind a bit.
Honestly from having done a bunch of dating in the modern era, the rise of obesity means that unless a girl is like... bottom 10th percentile genetically she's got scope to get to 6/10 simply by being in shape. I feel like a lot of the takes around the immutability of beauty made more sense before 30-40% of the population enthusiastically nuked themselves in the foot and modern cosmetics.
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