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1yr ago
The thing that strikes me with the decolonization rhetoric is that so many people espousing it don't seem to recognize the position of intense historical privilege they live in. Yes, there's issues with 2023 society, but the vast majority of people with access to Twitter live in comfort unimaginable even 60 years ago.
The entire 'Indigenous Voice referendum' in Australia discussion has been providing so many examples of this, in which there's a ton of focus on 'English colonization bad' coupled with an unspoken assumption that the Indigenous would otherwise have been left completely unmolested by anybody else and somehow emerged as a Western Multicultural democracy via process of Wakandization by now. It makes a coherent argument difficult.
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1yr ago
Most of those were self-inflicted issues for the superpowers in question, and it's very 'we are establishing norms of conduct which, whilst it'd be nice if everybody followed, it doesn't seem the current losers would follow if they were on top.'
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1yr ago
Lot easier to die at 20 than to die at 140.
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1yr ago
I do think simultaneously that being a CEO is hugely demanding in terms of mental ability and time consumption, but also there's a ton of Fisher Kingness attributed to whoever happens to have the top job and they're largely fairly interchangeable.
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1yr ago
Technically the biggest celebrity in human history is a star carpenter!
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1yr ago
I've kind of got mixed feelings on this.
I managed to 'get over it' and land on a girl I adore who is a good match through self-improvement, which is great. But, on the other hand, I went out with a bunch of girls who are intelligent, attractive, sensible individuals with a purported interest in settling down and having kids in the next 3-4 years over the last year or two... and the vast majority are just as single as they were when we dated, from what I can see.
Whilst I'm sure part of the equation is that they are being failed by guys who could rise up and be husband material for them, I don't think that's the sole element and I don't think the current result is a happy one for society.
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1yr ago
If anything I'd expect Trans-related violence to have a lot more to do with Trans individuals insufficiently communicating their status and individuals reacting poorly when surprised in person, as opposed to it being especially MtF Trans-perpetrator.
Especially in multicultural societies in which there's a whole spectrum of attitudes to, and awareness of trans people, in which non-clear communication can lead to... friction.
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1yr ago
Same.
I've experienced dating apps as an unattractive male and experienced them as a reasonably-attractive male, and it's night & day. Having all the game in the world wouldn't have saved me with my initial profile, but once you've optimized yourself a bit it's not super difficult
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1yr ago
I mean when I was in my Online Dating grind phase, it really was just a matter of 'get myself to a level of attractiveness to ensure a steady flow of new prospects and then don't pursue difficult prospects too hard since there's others on the burner'.
But as somebody who probably went from a 4/10 to a 8/10, mostly due to weightloss and poor presentation of my profile initially, I can sympathize that as a 4/10 the prospects are sporadic as hell and that there's an inherent scarcity mindset involved.
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1yr ago
I think this explanation excludes the reality that often women simply change their minds.
Or just there's a bunch of occluding factors. If dating was a simple peer-to-peer two-player game a lot of this would be more intuitive, but there are so many factors going into success and failure.
Maybe she said no the first time since she was dating another guy, maybe she'd given up on online dating that day and rediscovered her resolve a week later since her best friend met a nice guy on Hinge, maybe she was in a bad mood, maybe you were one of 10,000 messages in her inbox and didn't pitch anything super interesting etc etc etc
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1yr ago
It's better to be too forward than to be too passive, since atleast being too forward allows you to get feedback which allows for calibration of your approach for the next time.
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1yr ago
I do agree that an interested woman will make efforts to meet, but I also feel that dynamic is better expressed after an in-person meeting. Before an in-person meeting, if you're in any sort of metro online dating marketplace, you are one of a cast of 1000s in the inbox of anything female presenting.
The whole interaction really begins after/during the first in-person meeting
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1yr ago
Because by the dynamic of online dating you are one of 100,000,000 leads in any female-presenting individual's inbox and therefore don't really exist as something to form an attachment with until there's actually an in-person meeting.
The amount of times that it's gone from glacial response rates prior to a first date to a warm and accommodating human being after a chance to meet is pretty amazing, along with textual chemistry rather frequently giving away to dealbreakers upon 5 minutes of actually meeting.
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1yr ago
I definitely agree that's the case. Back when I was in my grinding OLD phase, I fairly quickly learned that generally if a girl isn't giving you a Yes by two attempts to secure an in-person meeting, you're about to embark on an exercise in frustration. Whether it be due to their disinterest in you, general flakiness, scheduling difficulties or whatever else.
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1yr ago
OLD's kind of what you make of it.
I've met the mother of my children through it after a year grinding away. It's a good outcome for me.
I met about 50ish girls in person over the course of the year, and based on still having most on social media it's striking that the majority still haven't found a partner. I was mostly dating UMC, intelligent, educated girls with good jobs who allegedly want to have kids within 3-4 years and yet the majority of the cohort seem to be stuck in a purgatory of Icking and not meeting somebody good enough.
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1yr ago
Incest Porn's a weird one, since arguably a lot of the stepcest stuff has come out of it being exceedingly affordable and practical to create versus other content of a similar level of taboo. A standard porn shoot can become an incest shoot with the addition of 5 lines of dialogue, without requiring sourcing actors who are either physically outliers or willing to do dangerous and/or weird acts.
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1yr ago
Why don't we teach young women 'please never send mixed signals to men about your sexual interest as ambiguous coquettishness muddies the water around consent'? Why is it 'No means no and if you don't have a yes, it's a no' in the face of all observed human mating practices? All the responsibility for miscommunication around consent is placed onto the shoulders of men by the groups advocating 'education'.
A lot of female sexuality operates around plausible deniability and genuinely being a lot more 100-0 with potential romantic partners than the male mind can really conceive. I've got a lot of female friends, and the amount of times a prospective paramour has gone from 'I think he's my soulmate' to 'it icks me to even be somewhat near them, they are physically and spiritually repulsive' off a single tiny moment/misplay is way too high. Being a proactive communicator of sexual intent doesn't work when you're wired like that, as the light switch can flip at any moment
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1yr ago
Are the people running factory machines inside of Ford and GM (or starbucks, or a hollywood writers room) really that highly skilled?
Switching costs are high, unions will generally make attempts to increase the difficulty of procuring 'scab'/temporary replacement labor and historically there was less ability to just move a factory international or procure international workers.
Do agree that the Writers' strike seems pretty fangless when it's not only a job with a fairly arbitrary marker of skill/ability to function, but it's also one that's an actual desired, targeted role for a lot of people without a real credentialist barrier to entry. Writer compensation should, logistically, have a pretty severe pareto principle.
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1yr ago
Doesn't look like the right link?
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1yr ago
Is it the tattoos in an aesthetic vacuum, or is it the attribute signalling they convey?
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1yr ago
Still I think the suggestion of gold-digger comes with an implication that the girl is contributing next-to-nothing financially
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1yr ago
What do you mean, the gender identity ('born in the wrong body') is justifying the surgery. Also the gender identity stuff is an incoherent belief system that is being taught in schools and mandated in workplaces.
Is it, though? A world in which the gender surgery actually accomplished what was on the tin I'd agree, but as-is it's kind of a shambles
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1yr ago
From talking to girl friends/watching them swipe on dating apps, I'd beg to differ. Plenty of guys who are pretty stable, nerdy vibes get instantly dismissed for being boring.
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1yr ago
If you're bright enough to know what VC is but not inside baseball enough to know which firm is which you're more likely to reject all VC claims than to give credibility to every one of them because "Venture Capital" is also the job claimed by a hundred thousand morons online.
Similar for people claiming to be a trader, since 99.99% of the time it's somebody yeeting around their Robin Hood balance on memestocks for a few months before going broke
If the referendum had been just to acknowledge indigenous people in the constitution, I feel it'd have gotten over the line. Tying it to adding another body for Indigenous advocacy to the untold score of them that already exist was the issue.
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